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Thea
Hi guys, in need of some advice here. Ever since I got into a relationship, which was a few months ago just before lockdown, I’ve been getting anxious about it for some reason. Anxiety has been coming from unrealistic reasons. We’ve messed about but nothing else and yet I am so anxious and stressed about being pregnant and getting hiv or std. Both the pregnancy and bacterial std tests came back clean. Additionally, I got two home hiv tests at week 9 and 12, both were clean. Despite the negative results, I find myself Googling the 0.5-1% possibly of false results. And the more I google the more I feel anxious.
Is this something people worry about in a relationship? I think I just need some reassurance. Also, this is my first relationship.
cupcake
This sounds like a general anxiety issue rather than a relationship issue. The level of anxiety you describe is not normal and i think you would benefit greatly if you talked to a professional about it.
Raven
Do you not trust your partner?
Newbie
Have you had previous sexual partners and felt the same? To me this sounds more like a cleaning ocd/germ/body fluids phobia than a realistic attitude towards pregnancy/std’s. Its good to ve cautious but preoccupied will ruin your life. If your worries are over the top and i feel taking the home hiv tests are over the top, you might consider if you have ocd tendencies.
Thea
No, I have previously not. This is my first bf. I’ve dated before but nothing beyond touching. And yet I found myself getting a pregnancy test last time too.
The thing that’s really stressing me out and causing a lot of anxiety is the stigma. I’ve never had sex and one night he put it in a bit for like 1 second and I’m thinking bam.. I’ve got hiv. Should I be worried? I did ask him and he said he’s not got any diseases. Do I trust him? Let’s just say I have a hard time trusting people, it’s just me.
Newbie
Your anxiety is not normal and i worry it might get in the way of your relationship. Because all you do while lovemaking is worry about babies hiv and std’s. A sexual partner will feel this and it can get in the way of bonding. I think you would benefit from some counselor who specializes in ocd behaviour. Take care
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