How do I figure out his intentions?

He asked to hang out again but cancelled. We still texted a few times a week to see how our week or weekends were. I was gradually being distant, doing my own thing, and dated other guys. After about 1-2 weeks of not seeing him, he recently asked me out for dinner, where he would actually pick me up. When we have been texting, I kept on telling him I was busy (which I was) and I was not very talkative. Surprisingly, he came right back, but I did not do that on purpose. I find this interesting considering that all we have done is go out for drinks and hang out casually.

The question is, what are you wanting out of this? IF all he wants is in your pants (not saying that’s it) are you prepared to not give it to him and end all things? Sex happens, sex is great, yes guys love it and can pretty much get it anywhere. Be confident enough to let him know that you don’t just hook up or go out on x amount of dates to have sex. Sex is a choice that should want to have with someone, not a gift. I mean apart from how we value ourselves. I’m not saying that sex is not precious cause IT IS! Don’t treat sex as a game or a prize that’s won, he can get it anywhere. If that’s the case then get to know him and if he loses interested because you aren’t ready to have sex (share something that’s important to you) than you’ll have your answer too.

Every man eventually wants to get in your pants, you need to find his true reasons by asking him. If it scares him off then you have your answer. I told a guy I was dating that if that’s all he’s interested in is random companionship and casual encounters than GOODBYE! Truth be told he actually liked me and stepped up quite a bit.

Hi Jessica.

No one can know why he’s all of a sudden “interested” as it could very well like you, could be for an ego stroke, it could be because he misses you, it could be because he wants sex, it could be (fill in the blank)…that’s what the dating process is about, peeling away the layers to determine what their true intentions are.

Your job is to figure out if he’s a guy you would CHOSE to potentially spend your life with, which is a very big deal and shouldn’t be taken lightly! What’s his purpose, goals, vision in life? How does he interact with the world around him? Is he honest, trustworthy and a man with integrity? Oftentimes we don’t always know WHY we’re attracted to a particular person, we just know we are, but that’s not enough to sustain a potential relationship. Need to find find common ground, whether your compatible in the way a couple needs to be, and your opposites bring out the best in each other (yin-yang) and if you could SUPPORT HIS purpose, vision and goals—if not, then you will struggle.