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Kiran
Hi all
This is such a depressing topic. I’ve been single all my life. I’m 25 years old and never been in a relationship. I’ve seen so many guys but just never a relationship. It seems like it’s easy to get into a relationship and everyone around me is in one .. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’ve been on dating apps spoke to numerous guys but nothing ever has come of it. I’m quite a confident girl and do get a lot of attention but i don’t know:(
Raven
So… What happens?
How many dates,
How do you meet these guys,
Etc…Vera
Sometimes not being in a relationship means you have higher standards . Many of those who easily fall into relationships may not know exactly what they need/want in a partner and start being in relationship just because .
Now, I don’t know the specifics of your interactions but you very well may not have met the right person. You do mention you’re confident which is good .kaye
I think we need lots more information about the guys you’ve seen and how long it lasts, how it ends, etc. to give you meaningful feedback. I would say dating apps themselves are depressing and the number of guys you have to go out with just to get a decent one to have a relationship with is in my experience 10-12. So for every 10 or 12 guys I dated one of those turned into more than a few dates.
The other issue is you are young so I assume the guys you are meeting are close to your age. Guys in their early and mid 20s are not as likely to be looking to settle down into long term relationships. Have you dated guys in their early 30s and had the same issue?
And I know there is a lot of disagreement on this site regarding early sex. But I for one think if you’re having sex with a guy on the first date or first few dates without getting to know him, forming an emotional bond and determining compatibility first, then you’re doing it wrong.
Kiran
Hi All,
So normally the guys I see don’t last for more than 3 dates. I’ve dated guys my age and in their 30’s. I’ve always met them online as I have no time to be going out and meeting people.
I’ve not had sex with any of the guys that I have dated so I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong.I think I may get attached to easy and expect more of the guys I do date, as I’m looking to date with the initial goal of marriage. Which all of my dates are aware of and 7 times out of 10 they want the same.
relaxy taxi
If you have time for online dating (and dating in general) why not try Meetup?
Maybe not with the intention to “get a boyfriend” but just to meet different people and do activities you enjoy.
Lane
I see this is your second post but with more information. There’s a saying “don’t put all your eggs in one basket” which essentially means don’t rely on just one method or source but spread it around to see which one works best. In a nutshell, using just the internet isn’t working for you, so you need to incorporate and employ different methods if you want to have better results.
Online dating has worse odds than gambling in Vegas. This is why you should never rely on just *one source* and mix it up by venturing out and meeting men in real life when out and about, through friends, family or local events, meetup.com, taking up a hobby, taking a class to develop a skill or interest so to expand your ability to meet lots of men who will like you for you v. just being another “face” of the hundreds of faces they view online but don’t have the personality, energy, zest for life or passions you have to go with it. Hermits live in caves or behind a computer, not active and interesting humans.
I highly suggest you use the internet very sparingly and strike up more conversations with real men in the real world. They are everywhere! They are at your friends for a BBQ/party, at the park, walking their dog, getting their oil changed, shopping for food, grabbing something to eat, at a local fair/event, or celebrating the New Year or 4th of July! Try getting out and meeting them in person and you may have better luck :o)
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