Home › Forums › Dating and Sex Advice › How do I know if he’s on steroids?
- This topic has 8 replies and was last updated 1 year, 5 months ago by
Liz Lemon.
-
AuthorPosts
-
Hannah
Ok, this question may seem funny but I think a guy I recently met who’s made my life living hell by ruining my self esteem, might be on steroids.
Right now it’s just a suspicion. Looking at his previous pictures he was overweight with pudgy, soft face and now he’s got huge, muscular arms and super masculine and chiseled face. I’ve never heard him say he goes to the gym a lot. It wasn’t too long ago that he had some extra pounds either. He’s also got rather large nipples and a little bit of man boob. He never wanted me to see him in the light when we were intimate, only darkness.
The worst part is that he has major mood swings. He’s nice, then he’s a mean jerk, then he’s caring, then he’s controlling and jealous and yelling at me, then he has empathy then he’s angry with me, then he hugs me then he lashes out at me. This guy is also extremely jealous of my success, career, extroverted personality, etc. It’s like he hates me and likes me at the same time.
He is extremely condescending and arrogant too. I have no idea why I like this guy except for we had tons of physical chemistry and he’s intelligent.
So, has anyone ever dated someone on steroids? I hate to suspect and not planning on asking him.
Does this sound like he could be using steroids or something else?
AngieBaby
You’ve already posted about this guy, haven’t you. This is the guy who insisted that you have your toenails polished at all times, right? The part about him being jealous of you and everything you have and then being arrogant and all of this ruined your confidence and self esteem sounds familiar. And the part about the physical connection and he’s intelligent.
If you’re no longer seeing him, then whether or not he’s on steroids doesn’t really matter and it’s time to stop analyzing and move on. If you’re still seeing him, then you need to ask yourself why you love being repeatedly disrespected by an a&&hole.
Raven
Why are you putting up with his abuse?
Liz Lemon
It doesn’t matter if he’s on steroids or not. He’s controlling and jealous of your success, he has major mood swings, he’s condescending and arrogant, he lashes out, it’s like he “hates you and likes you at the same time”. Why are you with this guy? Seriously. It does not matter if his behavior is due to steroids or to something else, he is abusive!
ANM StaffKeymasterIn case it helps, you can also find your old thread about this guy here.
Just as a quick favor, please stick with the same pseudonym in the future so our community members know for sure they’re you’re referencing the same guy as before. It helps them put together more relevant advice, and also is respectful of the time and emotional energy they’re putting into their responses. Thanks!
AngieBaby
I’m wondering if someone is just making up a bunch of stories and posting over and over just for fun or to get attention.
mama
I wonder that too AngieBsby.
Even if it’s all true, they don’t sincerely heed any advice, so I feel like it’s wasted effort
AngieBaby
This is now two people who have kind of odd stories – putting up with way too much from someone who is obviously no good – and they keep posting the same thing like a broken record even though they’ve gotten good advice. My spidey senses are tingling and I don’t think these two are for real. But even if they are real, I agree. They’re time wasters. I’m going to be more selective about who I respond to going forward and I will be more vocal about asking the admin to step in to handle repeat posters who are just regurgitating the same story and not listening. There are plenty of people who post here who want and take the advice.
Liz Lemon
Jeez, this is at least the 3rd time this poster has posted about this guy. I know I have responded to at least 2 other threads by her.
-
AuthorPosts
