How do I make it up for him after I disappointed him?

I really don’t know… Perhaps others will have thoughts on this.

You set the stage for looking selfish … Not sure how to turn that around. As you are involved with a man this early on he is evaluating to see if you are a good fit for him. Of course you should be doing the same. I know men who will walk if a woman begins to act in a way he dislikes.

Men have certain attributes they look for in a woman. When she meets them, he moves forward with her. When she doesn’t he pulls away or leaves.

This seems challenging to turn around because the impression you gave him was that things had to be your terms.

All you can do is see if he changes his mind. If he misses you and wants to see you, he will ask for the time.

Hi Isabella.

When someone starts a new job that’s where their focus is. You were really busy with school, and now he’s really busy with his new job. Not sure when he started, but it takes a new employee three months to pass the “probationary period” and is most likely trying to show his worth to his supervisors. I would give him some breathing room and when things calm down a bit he will hopefully be willing to work with you.

I know its hard, but the shoe’ on the other foot now—you’re going to have to deal with his like you made him deal with yours.

Don’t feel bad about focusing on your studies! School is important. You’re working towards a degree that will eventually lead to a career. If you were to have let school work slide for a man, you’d be kicking yourself later. Plus he understood. If he wasn’t supportive, that would’ve been a red flag for sure.

Like Lane said, I hope this is only a 3 month thing. You made time for him on the weekends when you were also busy with school, I’d point that out to him. I’d tell him you aren’t trying to be selfish but that you really enjoy spending time with him and miss him when you don’t. Maybe suggest spending the evenings and nights together on the weekends and on Sundays? He needs to be willing to find time for you, or else what’s the point?

Hello dear,
I understand now that he is so busy, you want to meet him and compromise. But I wouldn’t see you as a selfish person because you focused your univ. before. He had time when you were focused on your studies. Its only natural that you kinda rejected him with sleep overs that time. I’m in the same boat now, where my bf has his final exams and he can not meet during week. But I work on weekends. It was natural for me to meet him on weekends or whenever he can spare a time. Even when it meant I could sleep only 3 or 4hours a day. You are senior year its sooo important for you. So not feel too bad. And you try hard now to make it work. And support is nnecessary in a healthy relationship. If he don’t see it that way, I wonder if he is the selfish and insecure one. I not agree with some seeing you as selfish. What you can do about this situation, Well if you really like him, just keep trying to offer spending time, caring about his schedule now and apologise for before. If he can not get it, than leave him sulking for a while.