How do i stop acting crazy?

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October 3, 2019 at 2:16 pm #774787 Reply

Steph

I’ve posted here before. My partner left me for another woman, a girl whom I actually know (i happen to like her) & the way it all happened was really tough. He was mailing her behind my back, to which she didn’t know about me due to him never telling her/nothing of us being online. Whilst we was together I had a gut feeling he was talking to others, and I asked him probably around 10 separate occasions. To which he always lied and said no. Until I seen texts and he left me, for her.

Last night I was so upset by everything, I acted very crazy. I seen he was constantly online whilst he was at work and i knew he’d be speaking to her & I don’t know why but I just kept calling & calling & Calling. I called about 10xs. I left about 6 messages. Now I look really mental. I’m codependent so I struggle to let any man go, regardless of how poor they treat me. I recognise I am crazy. I own it. I know I have acted wrongful. I own it.
I also go to therapy. Its not entirely effective.

How do I stop myself acting so mental?

Is there anyone on here who is or was codependent and if so, how did you overcome this? I am struggling.

October 3, 2019 at 2:24 pm #774790 Reply

anon

Did you just break up with the guy like within the past week?

You need to disconnect from him on social media. Period. As well as the woman he cheated with. Delete his number from your phone. Make it so you can not reach out to him.

Then start finding other things to do to keep yourself occupied.

November 24, 2019 at 8:45 pm #779277 Reply

Birdeegirl

I think it is important to stop before you do anything “cazy” and ask yourself. ‘To what end?’ this question should make you stop and think about what you are doing and what you will get from this. More than likely you will just be hurt. So it is better that you just don’t know. Take that energy and use it on you. Make you awesome. You deserve to have respect. It comes from within so learn to respect yourself and don’t worry what anyone else in doing in their lives. You cant change what they do. But you can change you. Be that person you want to be. Now hold your head up high and walk away from anything crazy making. Good luck and remember, YOU ARE WORTH IT!!

November 25, 2019 at 5:02 am #779296 Reply

NO! Please go away

Stay by yourself. Learn how to depend on you. Learn how to be content in your own company. Talk to and flirt with other men.

That feeling of loss that you felt when you called him 10x was caused by your lack of trust in him making you all insecure and “crazy” you obviously hate the feeling. If a guy ever makes you feel that anxious again, back off. Listen to that warning to yourself.

what about this guy is so amazing you want to keep him in your life? He has not apologised for his behavior in fact, he’s quite the douchebag for going behind your back like that with no consideration for you at all. He could have just been honest and cut it off with you and parted ways. He chose to play games and caused a glitch in your brain. What a jerk!

You can analyse everything or just live your life changing what you can about yourself. Tell everyone else to mind their own business, leave you alone to do you, and just be happy for him.

November 25, 2019 at 5:07 am #779297 Reply

Tina

What a horrible experience! It happens to the best of us. Don’t let that define you. Don’t say that you are crazy. Your feelings are justified. It sucks being deceived. Not every guy out there is that messed up and won’t selfishly hurt you like that. Make yourself.

November 25, 2019 at 1:08 pm #779319 Reply

erika

Cut all contact w him, block him. Every time you feel like saying something to him, write it all down on a piece of paper it will make you feel better. Stay busy, hang out w friends, exercise, read self growth books, focus on yourself. Why would you want to beg a guy who chose someone else over you? Please don’t stop going to therapy! hope you heal soon from this <3

November 25, 2019 at 5:56 pm #779343 Reply

Honeypie

Oh honey, how indeed! You sound eaten up with preoccupation and anxiety and jealousy.

It’s horrid to feel so out of control and impulsive, and stuck.

You need to tell us… how are you going to change this? How are you going to start the withdrawal here? It has to begin. Let’s make a start.

November 25, 2019 at 7:30 pm #779353 Reply
Better off single
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