How long before a man misses you or senses that you might be gone for good?

It depends on what you mean about coming back. It sounds like this guy was never there for you. About coming back serious resentment about their decision to let you go and how they treated you is very uncommon, so is it that a dynamic changes afterwards; in other words he would most likely treat you the same way as before after a while.

But he reached out to you so that can happen within the first week or two. For a seroius change, weeks to months, sometimes even years. Mostly they will just reach out though and it means nothing has changed, yes, most come back but for what?

You should try healing and looking for a genuine relationship afterwards but healing after this long could take you a long time as I think there was serious damage done here.

4 years late here – but for any one who reads this now. It is not your responsibility to make a man respect you – it is theirs.

It is not a woman’s role to make a man a better person, it is theirs.

The guy who is being discussed sounds like he is selfish and believes himself to a be victim.

If you are someone who likes to call their partners often, then do it. If they don’t like that, discuss it openly. If their words are harsh and disrespectful, you aren’t the problem. And don’t change who you are as a person because they are unable to reflect on how their words and actions impact others.

Also, it is always easier to say leave than to actually leave. If you struggle to leave a relationship where you are being disrespected then seek support! You deserve the love you are so willingly give to others!