How long is normal for a man to be 'in his cave'?

Kim,

I don’t know if you forgot to answer during few days or decided not to answer during this time, but maybe he can see that as a game. Or a passive agressive thing. He was saying he can’t be there often and apologizing and you ignored it. How would you feel if the role were reversed?

When you say “the guy I am with”, it makes me Wonder if he is your bf and what is your status, how long do you know each other?

Plus, how often do you see each other?

After all, it s up to you to decide if what he gives you is enough for you, it s what you want, if you get along well, if you love each other…

For the moment yes you could send him a short text to see how he is.

What do you think I should say in my text?

Until recently, he was always the one to text me first, and to be honest I found it a bit off putting and needy of him, but I started getting used to it and found it comforting. Since his manic schedule at work he hasn’t been as talkative, but still texting daily until recently. I asked him how his weekend was after not hearing from him in 2 days and he replied minutes later apologising for not contacting as work was crazy busy. I them didn’t reply until 5 days later …you know the rest.

Before this happening we had planned our next date night, where he wanted to cook for me. He has been so loving and honest with me, and he always gives me his full attention when we are together. This is why I’m so confused about this situation. I couldn’t have seen it coming at all!! I’ve been texting him first the last 2 times and I haven’t noticed a change in his behaviour and he is always replying to me straight away until now.

I want to send him something that will make him smile, but not too cringy. He got me into the series Breaking Bad which I’m addicted to, so maybe something light hearted.??

Thank you so much for your help Tamara. Really appreciate it :)

Me and my husband lives on a long distance.
However, our communication were very frequent and strong till 3 weeks ago.
our visa process start frustrating him because he knows it\’s his fault for us not to live together by now. He is very slow so our paper works start getting expire and rules changed at the Embassy which put us into money shortage to proceed. So he stop communicating with me and start to spend more time out drinking,sleep over & dont answer my phone call whenever he is out and i call him,not going to work, etc. Now we are communicating once in a week or once in 3/4 days, he stays offline most of the time, which he never does before. I even ask him to visit at least if the visa doesn’t work out to soon which he promised me but he doesn\’t keep. I know he has financial problems but he is still going out and spending more money which he was supposed to save and help us through this problem, i also insist to share half of the money as long as we are in this together but he refused. So from all the above, do you think he is in a cave or he is avoiding me, or does he start a new affair. Currently whether he reads it or not or he is online or offline, i am just sending him normal messages every day like how my day was and i love him, he sometimes answer only short text like he is ok etc but now i am getting tired and feel unwanted . What should I do next?

Boyfriend of 3 years has been living with his friend. Last Friday I had no communication after making plans for the weekend only to discover he had moved house without bothering to tell me. Since then I’ve had no contact but worried all weekend

I have this man i love, he disappears for weeks or even month,when i text no response at all. when i give up he finally appears again, he has done this for almost a year, i love him deary but am confused because he gives me mixed signals.
please help is it worth to be with him?

We’ve been texting for 6 months now – 4 months of daily text, initiated by him and calls in between. He was so busy with work that we never made plan to meet.
I asked on the 4th month about meeting and he said that month .. 3 weeks in I asked again when he called and he said end of the month or the first week of the next month. I asked for the date a week later; he said he couldn’t confirm it so I asked if he is genuinely interested to meet and he said of course he is.
The dynamic of the communication changed then – I had to text him first and even on days he did he seem distant. A week later I shared my feelings and asked him to share his – I said ai want a relationship and it doesn’t have to be him but I want him to be honest. He said he wanted the same and it took him awhile to decide that (he is a widower of 5 years).
He started texting daily although not as ‘warm’ but then he had health issue and again he pulled away. He dropped me a sweet message and then disappeared until I reached out saying I hate this icky feeling. He apologised saying he’s not pulling away but he has been going through a rough patch. He started texting again but I feel it is more like an obligation so I told him that I understand he needs to focus on the issue he’s dealing with. Nothing eversince unless I reach out to him. Now how long do I need to wait now?