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overcome
So, my boyfriend and I have a complicated relationship. We’ve been dating on and off for 2 years. Now, the relationship is more stable and things have been going really well. It feels like we both love and appreciate each other a whole lot more. It will be mine and his birthday next month. Mine is first and his is a couple days later. We’ve already established that we will be exchanging gifts. He wants a keyboard that costs $200. He never came out and asked me to buy it but he mentions it a lot. He says he doesn’t have the money for it. I think that’s what he wants though when I asked, he told me that it’s too expensive for me to buy for him. I got $100 from a family member today and immediately, I put it aside for his gift but then it struck me, should I really spend $200 on him? I think that I’ll look stupid if he doesn’t spend nearly as much on me. My friend said I shouldn’t because it will make him feel like I love him more than he loves me. What do you guys think?
peggy
If you are comfortable spending the 1oo.oo,you could give it to him and write in the card that it is to help him save for or buy his keyboard. If you do this, I would think of him being free to do what he likes with the money, so you won’t be mad if he does not use it for a keyboard.
Karen
If he doesn’t have the money to buy the keyboard himself, I guess you can expect he won’t have the money to buy you something just as expensive. Since you’re even asking this question, I wouldn’t spend too much. Get him something less expensive but thoughtful.
carlotta
If you will feel silly spending $200 on him, imagine how he will feel if he isn’t able to spend that much on you on your birthday. I would keep it simple and take him out for a nice dinner, or find him something else he will enjoy. I took my last longterm bf out to a fancy steakhouse for dinner for his birthday, we dressed up and everything, and he loved it. It doesn’t have to be fancy, though. What’s most important is making him feel special.
redcurleysue
Of course it depends on your relationship but in an exclusive relationship I would spend:
$50 on birthday. $100 on Christmas…..if engaged then double the amount…..if married the sky is the limit.
Laura
As the other commenters said, he doesn’t have the money to buy what he wants, so he might feel bad if he gives you something less expensive. I’d go for something meaningful instead. You know him, and I’m sure there must be something else he likes, a hobby, a passion… anything. It can even be a fun present representing something symbolic, maybe something he said to you, or a memory you two share together.
I think the best presents are the ones that show thoughtfulness, it doesn’t matter if they cost 5 or 500$. Especially if you can’t afford the 200$ and you feel you will be disappointed that he doesn’t give you a present of a similar money value.
Alterego
I don’t think you should spend that money on him having the worries you have. I like the suggestion of giving him some money towards the stuff he wants but also equally the idea of doing whatever you feel is right- because it’s not about the money but about making it a special day for him. If he can’t appreciate it- that says it all.
L
If your so in love, why put a price tag on it? His gift is having you, chica
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