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Anne
I am mid 30’s female dating a mid 40’s man. He is a lot more sexually experienced than I am. Everything is great but I notice I can be a bit shy when certain topics come up. Last night we watched a porn together for a bit before we were all over eachother. I know some of my issues is I wish I was in better shape, but we have been dating long enough it’s not like he doesn’t know what I look like. Right now he is out of town for a couple nights visiting family. I want to surprise him
When he comes home by being irresistible and sexy for him. Any advice or ideas?Penny
I am not in the best shape but I know if I put on lingerie and some stiletto shoes, I feel extremely sexy and confindent. And he would love the suprise. Find something that accentuates your assets (whatever those are) and go for it!!!
Elvira
I would not suggest trying to hard to appear sexy…men look at sexy as the simplest things. Like wearing his oversized button down shirt or his T-shirt or wearing a tank top with boy shirt panties (a few men have proven that this is the sexist).
I would not recommend a room full of flowers or rose pedals but rather being in a confident state of mind when he walks in the door…..have some take out ready with a cold beer (or his drink) and walk around with something you feel sexy. I have some things from Victoria Secrets that are sexy enough to accentuate my assets when I put them on and my ex would definitely notice.Liz Lemon
Men find confidence extremely sexy. Think about what turns YOU on and gets YOU in an aroused and playful mood. It’ll be a big turn-on for him to see you in that mode. So don’t just focus on him, focus on what turns you on too.
If you feel comfortable and confident in sexy lingerie, then go for it. If it doesn’t feel natural for you (it doesn’t for me), then don’t, you’ll just feel awkward.
What about doing some role playing around your lack of experience? Rather than thinking of yourself as inexperienced compared to him, and therefore not as good, play some games where he “teaches” you. Try positions you’ve never done with anyone, etc.
Whatever you do, be in a playful and fun mindset! Seeing you enjoying yourself will be a huge turn-on for him.
Newbie
I agree with a elvira and liz. Its confidence plus assets. Im not in any shape at all but my man goes for the boobs. Men have this weird thing: they see you and then they focus on the parts that attract them and they kind of neglect the rest.
And talk dirty: make requests and tell him how you like itLane
It may backfire if you try.
My partner and I were talking about dresser drawers for some reason I can’t remember but most likely had to do with us remodeling the master bedroom where I told him I couldn’t remember what was in one of them, so when I opened it up I had lingerie that I probably hadn’t ever worn or if I had it was over 20 years ago lol. He said “you have lingerie?” I laughed because I didn’t think it was a big deal but he said he finds lingerie super sexy.
He was was at sea at the time we were having this convo, so when he returned about a month later I put on some lingerie, laid in bed waiting for him to enter thinking this was going to be a fun reunion…NOT! Seriously, for the FIRST TIME in our four plus year relationship he couldn’t get it up! I of course took off the lingerie, feeling deflated, put on a tank top that I usually wear and some shorts and guess what…he was ready to go!
I wouldn’t try to get all sexy. Just be your natural self as that’s what truly turns a man on :o)
brianna the expert
Hi there anne , i just read your i guess story , and i think i can somewhat help based off of my experience. What i would suggest or consider you trying if you haven’t already buy you a sexy and silky loungerie , light some smell good candels in your bedroom ,and take a good shower/bath. I would consider using like a vanilla sent on your body , but its your choice . then when your are freshly out the shower and shaved *hopefully* get some baby oil and put over your body and only put perfume on your wrist , ankle , the back of your neck and your waist. Then play some music i would consider like a freaky playlist or whatever you feel will set the mood for your guys … hope this helped and have fun
Raven
Meet him at the door only wearing a trench coat, pasties & bright Lipstick…
Anon
Work out before you get ready- that boosts your confidence about your body. I agree that guys focus on the things they like about a woman and are not concerned about other aspects. But, it’s how you act which is the turn on and guys love women who love sex- so love it and be spontaneous.
Ianthe
*Meet him at the door only wearing a trench coat, pasties & bright Lipstick…*
*PASTIES* esp LOL Always works a treat for me!
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