How to deal with breadcrumbing?

Every time you give sex, the risk is it ll backfire, in this case, he didn’t have enough time to connect with you on a deeper level before it got physical. He likes you just there is something ´missing’ , he doesn’t see you as the one, the special, the girlfriend he wants to be with, which is ok, what’s done is done. My advice, date and take your time, spend time with them as friends with a little innocent flirting but not more, put brakes, don’t have sex so early. This way you get a chance to know who is really here to stay.

He got what he wanted from you – sex. Once he has proceeded through his other rotation of women, he may circle back to you.

Dont wait around. If sex is all you want with men, dont get all fixated on one guy hoping it will turn into only wanting you.

His interest in you is limited to hooking up.

Take this as a learning lesson and move on. Most (if not all) guys on dating apps like tinder and bumble are looking for a casual hookup. Even if they pretend they aren’t. It’s been 3 weeks with not seeing him. Thats a long time. He’s probably hooking up and talking to multiple women. Forget him. Don’t even respond to him if he contacts you with some lame lazy text. Unless you want to have a fwb situationship. Which I’m gathering you do not based on your level of interest. You can do better for yourself!

Diane any update on your situation?

If these men are actually contacting you with “hey” or “what’s up” than it is totally ok to never respond. If they are actually engaging, but infrequently, then infrequent right back. Mirror him. 5 days to contact, 5 days to respond (in this case).

Hey
Hey

Whats up?
Not much.

Honestly:
“” hey! honestly, this sporadic texting and not seeing each . other is not my style, sorry””

This is perfect. It’s you speaking your truth. Put the kibbosh on this guy and end the idiotic gaming by being an adult.

It seems the ball is in my court now. Should I wait to hear from him again (if ever) or respond back to him?

“Do you really want to let him know that you kind of was hoping to see him again when he acts like such an ass.”

I think dudes deserve to be called out a little- her message is not an ego boost, it’s more of a “grow up and act like a man” message vs “hey, I was hoping we could go out again”. It closes the door on his foolish self.

I’ve actually done that before “Hey, you seem low interest and this is a waste of time, just stop contacting me”.

He won’t ever step up in a meaningful way.
Ignore his texts.
Block his number if you have to.

I wanted to add- the issue here is you’re playing a game of trying to hook him in . But why? It’s not like he’s even proven yourself to you.
Stop answering him because he sucks .
And don’t look back , don’t think it’ll change him, don’t think it’ll make him step up. The sooner you lose this guy the sooner you’ll be emotionally available for the right guy

When a guy wants you, he will not be playing games like this and you will not be wondering if you should text or how you should act? Dust yourself off and get ready for the next because the next one just may be the one you will be settling down with. It is definitely not this dude so please stop giving him your attention. Block him if you have to because that way you’ll feel you moved on.

“anon how did that turn out for you when you told him that? Did he step up or not contact you again?”

He apologized. I never responded again.

Some dudes are timewasters and if you leave the door open, they will indefinitely waste your time (hence breadcrumbing). Timewasters don’t deserve your time or mental energy so slam the door shut or they will drain you. If we as women all started slamming the door on timewaster behavior instead of gaming them along or desperately trying to make them step up, they would quit it.