How to expose a narcissist ?

Yes, but don’t you think they deserve to be exposed ? it’s so frustrating!!!

And let’s talk about karma, when is this ever happening ??

It’s not about him not caring, he has been a d*** to a lot of women ! this is awful
I don’t care he doesn’t care about me anymore, i don’t want to be with a cheating scumbag, my problem here, is that he hurts women and get away with it !

At this stage, you’re right @Raven
This one’s an idiot anyway, and will never have a meaningful relationship with anyone because he’s too busy trying to get attention from every women he sees

Thank you for your reply @lara
I know it’s so hard :'(

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Honey, you need to look at your own extreme behavior. You stalked him, you publically commented all over the place and then you expected a confrontation? You owe him an apology not vice versa!!!!

That sounds completely crazy. And you were likely not used without your consent. Did he rape you? Or did he just use words and actions and disappointed you? Not all painful breakups make a man a narcissist. Because otherwise you need to look at why you would be sucked in by a narc (which you are not a clinical psychologist to make that diagnosis). If you knew him, you most likely saw how he interacted and spoke about women.

Take ownership of you and your behaviors. Your question is dubious once you said you tried to embarrass him publically. You may have deserved each other.

Another quick example: a weird women he was flirting with got jealous of me for some reasons i still dont get, and started to insults me on my social media.
I talked to him about it, and he assurerd me she was blocked and she would never do it again.
Well guess what ? he never blocked her.
Two weeks after he threw me away (again, for no reasons after getting sex) and i might add: threw me away and insulted me on top of that, and when i say for no reasons, i mean, no reasons,
two weeks later, i find them going for lunch together.
I asked him for help and he betrayed me. He never blocked her, and never even cared she was harassing me. so who is the dickhead really ?

I am missing how he manipulated or used you? Any examples you can give? Because to me he just sounds like a complete a-hole, treated you like a complete a-hole would and you seemed fine with that until HE dumped you.

Like when he took off the condom (which by the way i agree is not ok in the slightest, but many men try that) , how did that continue? Did he put it back on? Did you stop having sex? Did he force you to continue?
If this episode enraged you so (which i totally understand, i would be furious too) why did you continue seeing him?

In what ways did he manipulate or use you? He seemed pretty outright in his dreaful behaviour?!

Anyways…
If you need to vent on here, go ahead. But please do yourself a favour and move away from this toxic person. You gain nothing from engaging or trying to “expose“ him. Absolutely nothing.

Focus on yourself and maybe try to figure out why you would let anyone treat you like this in the first place.

I agree with tall but not that you should apologize. I do believe you that he is a big lying scumbag but you didnt have the proper boundaries in place to see right through him. You let itself in that position. In stead of using all that energy on him, use it on yourself. On this site are great articles on how to become a woman that doesnt get high on breadcrumbs. Read them and apply. Go to the baggage reclaim site and read. You really have to recognize these type of guys before you get drown in. And thats the best payback you can give

Hello everyone who replied,

Thank you all for taking the time to reply.
To be honest, if i let him step over me it’s because i loved him and i was scared to raise my voice because i was scared he would leave and never talk again.
In the end, he cut me off for no reasons anyway, and that hurts.

I’ve known him for years, so not talking to him anymore for some reasons, feels like a massive a-hole in my heart.

The only apology i have to give, is to myself, that i let him step over me. but i was in love and clearly blind at this rate.

He’s a gigantic a****hole. I say narcissist, because i read so much about it and it does have very similar traits. He cheated on all his gf, did the dumping and acted like a victim.
Even worse, his ex for instance, had a friend before she met him. this ex and this prick dated, then when HE dumped her, the exe’s friend sided with HIM and needless to say, the ex and her friend arent friends anymore. He breaks hearts and friendships.
He also cheated on his ex with a work colleague last year, his ex thought they were friends, well, now they’re on holidays together. Classy. NOT.

Oh youre also Kelly

I met a man that I knew was an alcoholic and a gambler. He made me feel special. He knew all my insecurities and not so pleasant health issues that I am very insecure about. He didn’t care. Made me feel comfortable around him to the point we moved in together and shortly after that he proposed. Bought a ring and couldn’t wait to give it to me at Christmas so a week before I front and all our friends he proposed. Tears flowing. He loved me so much.

Then came the small comments about how I didn’t clean very well. Or he has to eat, she don’t feed me. To I could out do you in your job with my one hand tied behind my back. All with a smile or a laugh after he would see me look hurt. It was just him joking. I tried talking to him about how it hurts my feelings and wished he wouldn’t do that.

Then came the only talk to me when we are home. Not in public. Wasn’t suppose to sit by him because couples didn’t do that. Would partner up with other girls for dart games/tourneys. Again I would try and tell him that hurt but his response was always I’ve know her for blank years or we’ve been doing this for blank years.

One night he calls me and tells me I have to pick him up in another town cuz he is drunk. Mind you he never called or returned my calls or text messages and refused to call the actual bar number. I arrive and sit down beside him and he tells me without looking at me that he is moving out at the end of the month. (Less than 2 weeks). I’m crying asking why and he says he doesn’t know. We get home and he still won’t tell me why. Another woman? No. Did I or my son do something? No. I’m sitting asking questions and crying and he just turns to me and asks if I’m going to cuddle with him and have sex before he goes to bed. I’m like no.

He doesn’t return home the next night but the following night he does. Then gone 3 days with him calling multiple times being nasty and threatening to turn off all utilities/tv etc. Funny thing is I set everything up. There were things in his name but I was given permission on the accounts. All phone numbers and emails were linked to my information. On top of that I had paid all the rent, utilities, food, gas, smokes, bets, bar tabs, and when ever we went out. His job had really taken a hit and I was making enough to cover.

By day 3 I had the landlord change the locks and start on a new lease with him removed. I had his name removed from all household bills. Here’ the kicker. He is a regular at the bar I work with. Everyone loves him. That’s just him. He’s never gonna change. You were never gonna change him. I didn’t try to change him. We went were he wanted. We left when he wanted to. Every choice of our activities he decided. On top of that my boss told me that if I caused a scene with him either behind the bar or in front of the bar I didn’t have a job.

People (friends) watched him being rude all the while I’m being polite and trying not to cry. Him either not tipping or giving me a quarter for serving him for 5-6 hours and then saying he would leave the door unlocked. I got the looks of sympathy but NOT once did any of them speak up and tell him to be nice or knock it off. It was just another thing to laugh and say was a joke. That that was just him.

So yes I put up with stuff I shouldn’t of. I walked in with open eyes of the alcoholic and gambler. He could be cold and mean but then could turn and be the guy I met and first lived with. He loved me. Always did and always will. And I would go back and the cycle went on. Until now. I am breaking my ties to him and very interested in another guy. He knows about my ex. He has concerns and I am being as honest as I can be with him. He is a really good guy I think.

What I’m trying to say about the original post is….

Move on. The people that allow him to act and treat you or anyone badly because that’s just him and he’s such a good guy can HAVE him cause he will not be responsible and be there to help them when they need it. Let go to the anger. It will go in one ear and out the other. It will only be thrown at you as YOU dated him. YOU kept going back.

What some may not understand is we go back cause be believe in second chances, that love we cure anything, that if we do better then they will see and treat you better. Yes part is low self esteem and some is codependent and some is that we are too nice, too caring.

You can’t expose cause they know already. They just don’t care. So use that energy on making you happy whether that is self help and being alone for a while or finding the special person elsewhere.