How to get a second date?

Did you initiate ANY texting after he had initiated several times? If not, then this could be your answer. Men need to lead, absolutely, but you do need to show some interest back to him. But do not ask him out! Try starting a nice conversation a couple of times, but with something to talk about, not just how was your day. It might not work, don’t have your hopes high, but you can try and see. Do not hint about getting together, men are not dumb and not thick, if he is not asking you he has his reasons.

Rita,
Its been two weeks I think its safe to say he wasn’t feeling it the way you were.
I’d move forward and date others.
Keep in mind great first dates don’t always lead to anything and that’s okay.
There is someone out there that you won’t have to wonder about.

If he is interested in seeing you again he will follow up.
It truly is that simply.
If he wants to take things slow that’s fine but he should also clue you in on that.
Taking things slow and not being interested are not one in that same.
Instead of placing this energy on this guy remember there are other guys out there.

He is gone with the wind if you ask me.

He’s not going to ask you out again. Stop responding to his messages and forget about him. And don’t worry about “why” he kept texting you. Could be a variety of reasons, but you’re wasting your time and energy guessing the explanation. All you need to focus on is if he’s asking you out or not; that’s the real test of interest, not texting.

I had a guy I met online not too long ago do something similar. Told me he had a great date, texted a bit afterwards, seemed nervous, kept seeking reassurance that I liked him etc etc…even went so far as to suggest another date…then never followed up, never asked me out again…occasionally he’ll do something weird on match were we met, like my photo or “view” me…shrugs, he’s just not that interested. Maybe like Kathy said, liked me well enough, but that are so many choices.

Yeah thank you. Well still nothing and 4 days passed since he mentioned we should go out again and he will drop a message later or whatever he phrased it. Well I don’t see why he would even say it if no intention to do so but this is beyond me at this point I guess!

Not sure. But I don’T think he is majorly interested. Unless he is extremely busy with something or just takes it slow as other have said. Sadly not much else to do but wait and see. You cannot make someone like you. Or ask you out. He dropped it that you should see each other, so I guess he is interested in a way, could be genuinely just caught up in something. Wait and you have your answer

Rita is the guy still texting you?

If he is or even if he isn’t texting you everyday… what is the big deal to suggest a date? I mean really we are so worried about appearing desperate yet we are waiting for their text every minute. If you suggest a 2nd date and he does not follow through then there is your answer the guy is not interested. You delete his number and move on to the next guy.

Trust me I have done the same thing wondered, overnalyzed and then I said screw it I am just going to go with what I feel. If I get rejected then so be it (as of now have not :-). However I tell you one thing once you have been through some rough patches your strength and confidence is built up. Our biggest fear is rejection so we avoid anything that would cause us to be rejected. We “assume” it so already we are avoiding something that isn’t even guaranteed. Hey what if he says “yes” and actually goes on another date?

That is MO…I know many say let the guy lead and chase. However this is not chasing your asking him a simple question…if he doesn’t follow through you delete if he does then you back off and let him come after you. The 2nd date your confident, happy and free. Show him how great you are!!!!!!

I give up now I think. :(

If you met him online, he is dating others. He’s probably going through the roster and so should you.

Yup – next one!