How to get an Avoidant-Personality Ex Back?

There is a very good reason why Sara wants him back. You need to read further not only about his attachment style “avoidant” but the reason you run back is you’re an “anxious”. An anxious from primal times would do anything to close the gap to survive in an unstable environment. An “avoidant” on the other hand denies their feelings and cuts them off. You will be attracted to an avoidant because they keep you in a familiar mode. Check out your childhood roots of instability. You can’t change an avoidant unless they want to change themselves. Don’t chase the high of what’s familiar and fireworks but seek a secure attachment style who will be more empathetic and clear in communication which will allow you to move more into a secure zone. Read “attached” book for further info. This will remove blame and shame and help you understand more.