How to interpret "we'll talk soon"? Is she interested?

I’ve been out of a relationship for a little over a year. I’ve had my share of meet ups with girls for all the wrong reasons and feel like I am in a lot better place than before.

One problem I have is that I currently live about 8 hours away from her. I moved away for school, junior college, but due to some difficulties getting the classes I need, I will be moving home. I still have about two weeks before I head home so in the mean time I’ll have to do all the catching up through text unfortunately. As it gets closer to me going home I plan on asking her out to a local Christmas festival. I highly doubt she knows I have, or ever had feelings for her so my goal is to kind of get that across to her sometime in the next couple weeks.

Cool! Just text, but calling after that here and there would be better so you can pick up on the verbal and non-verbal cues to determine her state of mind and how you interact with each other. Hope all goes well! :-)

Call her on the phone and talk…. As a woman, that means so much more. Texting is so passive. Good luck.

Ha Ha Juliette. As you will have read, us Europeans give more leeway/initiate calling/texts. I AGREE with the not chasing, let the guy lead………..I just think the odd time there is the ” grey areas” and ” mixed signals/things going on in life”, why a guy is not in touch.

Bummer. Small chance she WIll reply………..but probably not. Maybe she is not interested, maybe she is not impressed you did not try sooner/harder/more. If you want…………….try ONCE more…………….with an explanation( brief) of WHY you were not in touch……………you have nothing to lose. Nothing ventured, nothing gained !

it’s ALL a learning curve for us. Next time you shall try things different.

I honestly just feel like texting her and telling her that I used to like her. Her brother and I used to be good friends which is one reason I never expressed my interest in her. I want to tell her that I used to like her, and want to know if she would be interested in hanging out when I go home for the holidays in about a little over a week. Is it too much to tell her that I used to like her when I haven’t talked to her in a few years?

To me, it seems like she has had a bad string of relationships and is insecure about some things right now. I like what Harley said. I mean, even it is too much, what do I have to lose? Coming clean and letting her know how I feel will at least give me the satisfaction of knowing if she is truly interested or not.

I meant “try one more time…”

IF…………….she’s posting sad stuff on Gb, either she is feeling momentarily sad…perhaps not in the mood to text you/cannot believe you might like her and be serious OR………….she IS a bit of a sad/depressive person…………monitor HOW many sad pots, over how long( facebook snoop…………which I normally DON’T advocate !!!!!!!).. if NOT many sad posts………..she’ll lovely, if a million sad posts… be cautious.

I’d text Monday. Be direct. ” Hi xxx, I’m home next week , xxx dates, and was wondering would you like to meet for coffee. text me back please and I shall PHONE you back to arrange a time and date.( make sure you do this, straight away !!!!). If you don’t text back, I accept you are not interested and wish you all the best “………..THAT’s IT. No more.

At least you will know………..and can stop wondering ! Good luck.

WHAT WOUND UP HAPPENING?

Are you two married now?

@Stephen, that is not true. A guy/real man (not a sad pathetic little boy) will pursue a woman if he’s really interested and emotionally healthy and mature enough for a relationship.

It’s not about playing games. It’s letting a guy prove his interest and determining if he’s worth our time. Yes, that needs to be earned.

There are too many man-babies dating and expecting women to chase them. No way, sorry.

Ladies don’t date children. Date a man.

Besides this is an old old post.

@Phillygirl

Did you know that men employ what might be called a cost/benefit analysis on individual women? If she is high maintenance,has baby rabies or is showing signs of wanting a man,any man to make her feel whole then a man will consider that the costs outweigh the benefits. women need to try and plant the idea that the benefits outweigh the costs or he’ll sooner or later fade out of her life.
I think that men should be more honest with women if they are not feeling it with her. However many men are terrified of the idea of being cut off from sex for an indeterminable period of time so they learn to say the right things and appear interested in the relationship when they’re already half-way out the door. It is better to be painfully honest than deceptive but men don’t want to turn the sex tap off so they’ll put up with anything a woman throws at them.

P.S. I am asexual I’ve never had the slightest interest in women. I mention this in the interest of full disclosure.

I must say though Stephen, I totally agree about the sex comment! I wish women would understand that a bit more. I have loads of male friends and all of them have been with someone purely for sex at one point or another. They’re not emotionally invested so they’ll say or do whatever it takes to keep the sex going. It’s easy to say nice words or do nice things when you’re not building a relationship. You’re not invested or being authentic.

I also agree about the cost/benefit analysis. I think women should do this more too! Too many women go purely on feelings and don’t sit back to objectively examine if someone would make a good partner.