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Harley.
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BobbyRedSox24
I recently got a hold of a girl I haven’t talked to in about 3 years. We went to high school together, her being a few years younger than me. From what I know, she used to like me back then, but the timing between us was never right. I also was in what would turn out to be a long term relationship so I never expressed my interest in this girl.
Anyways, I got her number from a friend (she is not on any social media sites) and I texted her. She seemed excited to hear from me, but immediately told me she was getting sick and was going to bed. I attempted to end the conversation there, telling her I hoped she felt better and we could catch up some other time. To my surprise she said she would stay up for a bit longer. Initially I assumed that she was still just getting ready for bed, but when I would send her a text she would respond within less than a minute of it being sent so it seemed like she actually stayed up to text me. About half an hour later she said she was going to bed. We said goodnight and she said “we should definitely talk more soon!”
Its been three days and I haven’t heard from her. Should I be the one to text her first? I don’t want to bug her especially if she is sick. Do you think she is still interested in talking to me? Or was that just a nice way of getting out of the conversation? Also, how soon is soon? Assuming she is interested, who should initiate contact again?
Thanks everyone.
Lane
Hi Bobby.
I would text and ask her how she’s feeling to break the silence. I’m sure she’ll respond because its most likely a head cold so although she may not be fully up to par, she would be able to text.
I would try to schedule a light lunch to catch up and find out more about her. I know your generation likes to text, but you can’t get to know her unless you see and talk face-to-face.
Can I ask how long you’ve been out of the relationship? Just want to make sure you want to meet her for the right reasons, not because your lonely or heartbroken.
I’ve been out of a relationship for a little over a year. I’ve had my share of meet ups with girls for all the wrong reasons and feel like I am in a lot better place than before.
One problem I have is that I currently live about 8 hours away from her. I moved away for school, junior college, but due to some difficulties getting the classes I need, I will be moving home. I still have about two weeks before I head home so in the mean time I’ll have to do all the catching up through text unfortunately. As it gets closer to me going home I plan on asking her out to a local Christmas festival. I highly doubt she knows I have, or ever had feelings for her so my goal is to kind of get that across to her sometime in the next couple weeks.
Yams
Bobby, she’s interested.
When I’m not interested in a guy I just let convie taper off.
She’s definitely sitting there thinking “Oh…I guess he’s not interested in me anymore since he hasn’t initiated. crap”.
Girls expect guys to initiate at the early stages because we are taught that it’s a way for us to gauge their interest in us. Now text her!
Cool! Just text, but calling after that here and there would be better so you can pick up on the verbal and non-verbal cues to determine her state of mind and how you interact with each other. Hope all goes well! :-)
Harley
Man up
…and phone her after another text or two. do consistent Contact…We HATE guys who get in touch one minute and not the next. MEAN what you say.. If you ask to meet up…MEET up. ..don’t flake or cancel.good luck.
Lagirl
Call her on the phone and talk…. As a woman, that means so much more. Texting is so passive. Good luck.
Juliette
Well ladies, I guess this blows our theory of ‘if he hasn’t contacted you in 3 days he isn’t interested, move on’ to smithereens…
Ha Ha Juliette. As you will have read, us Europeans give more leeway/initiate calling/texts. I AGREE with the not chasing, let the guy lead………..I just think the odd time there is the ” grey areas” and ” mixed signals/things going on in life”, why a guy is not in touch.
Well I finally texted her last night and got nothing in response. Chalking this one up as another failed attempt. Thanks for the help though everyone, it’s much appreciated.
Bummer. Small chance she WIll reply………..but probably not. Maybe she is not interested, maybe she is not impressed you did not try sooner/harder/more. If you want…………….try ONCE more…………….with an explanation( brief) of WHY you were not in touch……………you have nothing to lose. Nothing ventured, nothing gained !
it’s ALL a learning curve for us. Next time you shall try things different.
How long should I wait to text her again? Last night I text her and asked how she was feeling because last time I talked to her she said sick and I got no response.
I was able to find her on Facebook but didn’t want to request her as a friend right away. I did look at some of her posts as to see if maybe she had a bf, but just came across a lot of posts about her being sad and lonely.
Idk what I should even say if I was to text her now? I’ve had such bad luck lately with girls in general that I’m considered just giving up on the whole situation.
I honestly just feel like texting her and telling her that I used to like her. Her brother and I used to be good friends which is one reason I never expressed my interest in her. I want to tell her that I used to like her, and want to know if she would be interested in hanging out when I go home for the holidays in about a little over a week. Is it too much to tell her that I used to like her when I haven’t talked to her in a few years?
To me, it seems like she has had a bad string of relationships and is insecure about some things right now. I like what Harley said. I mean, even it is too much, what do I have to lose? Coming clean and letting her know how I feel will at least give me the satisfaction of knowing if she is truly interested or not.
Tana
I believe she is interested, but because you wasn’t in contact for 3 days, she is doing the same as you, keep you waiting… If it was me, I’ll not reply right away. And I’d take a couple days to text a guy back just not to look eager…
Wait for a few more days…If she replies good, if not not try one more time…And then you will know for sure her interest…I meant “try one more time…”
Bobby,
firstly- do not text her again with your feelings. Just no. If she likes you she will respond
Secondly- girls play a lot of games. Especially the insecure ones or those who feel they’ve been mistreated by guys in the past. Give it 3 days or so. She might reply.If she doesn’t, I’d text one more time with something casual and if no response to that, leave it!
IF…………….she’s posting sad stuff on Gb, either she is feeling momentarily sad…perhaps not in the mood to text you/cannot believe you might like her and be serious OR………….she IS a bit of a sad/depressive person…………monitor HOW many sad pots, over how long( facebook snoop…………which I normally DON’T advocate !!!!!!!).. if NOT many sad posts………..she’ll lovely, if a million sad posts… be cautious.
I’d text Monday. Be direct. ” Hi xxx, I’m home next week , xxx dates, and was wondering would you like to meet for coffee. text me back please and I shall PHONE you back to arrange a time and date.( make sure you do this, straight away !!!!). If you don’t text back, I accept you are not interested and wish you all the best “………..THAT’s IT. No more.
At least you will know………..and can stop wondering ! Good luck.
Gb………..meant FACEBOOK !!
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