How to Make a Man Feel Needed Without Acting Needy

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September 21, 2015 at 4:05 pm #460250 Reply

Miss_Aspiring

I’ve read a lot about how men like to feel needed. They want to be the strong provider, the hero, etc. But I also read about how women should not act needy. So I’m confused.

Is it a good idea to make a man feel needed, and how can we do it without acting needy? Maybe I’m just unclear on what these concepts mean … Any insight would be appreciated!

September 21, 2015 at 4:22 pm #460258 Reply

Maria

I think you can only do this gradually. For example, first tell him about some of your problems. He would most likely offer a solution. Do not argue, just take it. Then show your appreciation and reward him for this – do something nice for him that you know he would like. Sometime later, tell him about some other problem. Repeat.

Being needy is treating a guy like your old girlfriend, this would kill the attraction very fast.

The best way, however, is NOT to need him at all, genuinely. They sense that immediately and this is when they really get interested in you and start doing things for you to win you over. LOL. Then many women make a mistake of not accepting things from guys for free and try to do something nice for them in return and often overdo it. The more you take the more they want to give. Funny eh?

But don’t forget the rewards, this is different from “giving”.

September 21, 2015 at 4:31 pm #460259 Reply

Alexis

Being needy and making a man feel needed are two completely different things.

Being needy is constantly texting and calling when you’re not getting a response. Being needy is acting insecure and asking the guy to make you feel needed. Being needy is basically being annoying lol.

Making a man feel needed is appreciating him and making him feel like he matters. Letting him be the man and the provider. For example, let him take the lead. Or just simply giving him compliments. Saying something like…”Oh I love how you helped me with moving my apartment the other day. I loved seeing those sexy muscles being put to work.” It’s cheesy I know. But the male peacock needs to fluff his feathers ever so often right ;) Another thing you can do is celebrate his accomplishments. He got a promotion at work. Well treat him to something nice! Make him feel good about himself.

So yes it is a GREAT idea to make your man feel needed. I think it really builds up intimacy and it just shows that you care and the you will always be on his side. I hate to see women constantly put their men down. It really breaks my heart. Because I know I can’t wait to have a man that I can uplift and make feel good. This is just the southern in me haha.
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