How to mend a shattered heart?

Well a bottle of whiskey might help. Cheers babe. Sorry for what you’re going through.

I’d say maybe you’ll find your future husband someday, with the way life is these days and everyone’s need for instant gratification, high standards, and never being satisfied, I have my doubts. Best of luck to you.

Ladies, at some point I have experienced same like you, even though the hurt maybe not as deep as you, as I have mindset that I will always let go a man who doesn’t want to be with me anymore.
Regardless that mindset, yes, it is still hurt to be victim of broken promises and potential. It chipped away some part of you, the innocent little girl trusting part of you.
I have resented unfairness and injustice of the situation for years.
However, just several days ago, after some turn of event, and hearing your stories and many several similar storied here, I have finally made a peace with it.
I see now that promises(especially man’s romance promises) is not casted in the stone.
There is no guarantee, it have possibility to change in the future with a lot of events, one thing leads to another.
It is not something woman could control in direction that win her wishes, because it is man own battle with himself to find his way in life that suit him.
If his love for you win, maybe he will stay with you.
But whether his love for you is winning or losing, that is never related with your worth or what you do, or your attractive value, because I see the pattern now, that for most men, the number one he put first is likely himself.
This is why important for us to always have ourselves and not beat ourselves over heartbreak, regardless there is a man in our life or not.
Being chosen is not the badge of most treasured thing in his life, it is more like you are the most fitting woman for his life at that stage of his life.
I hope you both can find your way to make peace with it someday.
I understand how it hurts, but believe that there are always million ladies may have gone through the same, on another place, another time

I find your post heart breaking and im upset too. I have no perspective other than take your time to grieve and heal. And try to focus your mind on anything that can give some pleasure. Be sure to be around people who care about you.
Im also stunned with his change. You have no idea what caused it and was he the one who broke up? I dont think i could not knowing the why. I mean when it comes to short term relationships i wouldnt dig too deep, but this was a whole year and a radical shift in a specific timeframe. I would really want to know.
Meanwhile all love and hugs. Its a serious rotten thing but you will get better

Here’s the thing about people, not just men, but women too, is that sometimes you get stuck, bored, or feel unsure about life in general. You start questioning yourself and wondering if you still haven’t experienced enough to know if this is truly the right choice for you, and these feelings start getting stronger, feel torn, and not sure how to navigate until you’ve had some time to make that decision.

I’ve had these doubts, even when relationships were going great where you get this nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that maybe this really isn’t what I want, right now, as there are things I’ve still wanted to do or need to accomplish before settling down into a domestic lifestyle.

It’s a major decision that should not be taken lightly. You need to make darn sure both parties are on board and ready to make that major commitment or you’ll have one or both parties regretting that decision because they truly weren’t ready, and that’s not the path to a long-term happy partnership. I’ve had these doubts many times, most people do; whereas it ultimately comes down to how *ready* and *sure* one is in moving forward or taking a different path based on what’s going on with them internally.

The only thing that mends a broken heart is *time*. The longer the time the less pain you feel until you reach the stage of indifference. When you’ve reached it, a triggered thought of them doesn’t produce any intense feelings; it disappears as quickly as it comes and don’t have another thought about them for long periods of time. The best thing you can do is to make yourself think of something else whenever he pops in; the longer you allow him to nest in your head, the longer its going to take to reach the indifference stage as that’s ultimately the place you want to get to.

“This game is built to favor men a lot, and those lucky women who these men finally choose. ”

“Lucky”
As a single woman, I see a lot of “lucky” married women stuck in bad relationships. Downing a sippy cup of wine while I talk about my travels and fun, while they talk about the two jobs of earning a paycheck and caring for a family while hubby golfs.
I talked to a “lucky” woman last week who moved to a place she hates for her man.
My “lucky” aunt who was “chosen” by a man who transitioned into an alcoholic monster after the birth of her kids.

Lucky is the woman who gets to live her life on her own terms, which may or may not include a partner. Go build the life you love, and the right men will come at the right time.