How to reply to "let's hang out again"

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November 25, 2017 at 8:06 pm #669102 Reply

Ana

A guy (an acquaintance/friend of mine) and I had dinner together yesterday. It wasn’t technically a date, but we did end up kissing.

He followed up with a text saying that he had a good time and we should hang out again sometime. I know I’m overthinking, but I have no idea how to respond. “Sure” sounds impasse. Saying nothing is worse but that’s where I’m at.

Any suggestions?

November 25, 2017 at 8:17 pm #669106 Reply

Amanda

“That sounds good. I had fun”. Express positivity without commitment, because he needs to ask for a specific date. You need to still give him something to chase.

November 25, 2017 at 8:19 pm #669107 Reply

Hannah

You have to give the guy some encouragement. He’s put himself out there by texting you, so do the same back. I would say something along the lines of “I had a lovely time too and yes it would be nice to hang out another time. Let me know when you’re free”. And leave it like that. Then the ball is very firmly in his court and he knows to get in touch again if he wants to see you.

November 25, 2017 at 9:51 pm #669125 Reply

Aida

I’d like that. :-)

November 25, 2017 at 10:27 pm #669135 Reply

Stephen G

American women treat men like servants.

November 25, 2017 at 10:34 pm #669136 Reply

Ana

Thanks, everyone. That helped. :)

Stephen — what?

November 26, 2017 at 8:23 am #669178 Reply

Anne

Do you really like him? Is he a quality person with a job and plans for the future? Yes, be respectful and respond encouraging ly. But, of course, set up a real date, not a sex appointment.

November 26, 2017 at 1:23 pm #669230 Reply

Ana

Not sure about his future plans, but he’s a serious guy with a stable life. And I do like him. Actually, I used to have a crush on him, which I had pretty much moved on from and then he asked me out. I haven’t quite processed what I think now.

I definitely won’t be having a “sex appointment.” This was the first time I even kissed someone on a first time out. Did I send the wrong message? How do I make sure that a hang-out is not a sex appointment? I mean, I would be okay with an official “date” if that word is ever used, but I’m okay with casual at this point (because I’m a very nervous about new things and I’m reserved). I probably need to stop over-worrying about this and just make sure we are out in public place, yeah?

November 26, 2017 at 2:57 pm #669244 Reply

Cara

Avoid dates at your house or his- definitely public. How much do you know about him?

November 26, 2017 at 3:13 pm #669246 Reply

Amanda

Yes, to avoid a sex appointment make sure the date is going out in public, no home dates until later.
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