Husband following and liking Instagram girls

Also, sorry, one last thing– you said “he assured me that these photos don’t mean anything to him and I do believe him”– then why confront him about his “likes”? Obviously you think the photos and likes DO mean something to him, or else you wouldn’t have confronted him?
Sorry to belabor this, and I hope I don’t come off as confrontational. I’m just not a fan of micromanaging others’ behaviors in relationships. So all this is just what comes to my mind when reading this thread.

I get that. I’m not saying what you did was wrong. I’m saying I’m not convinced his behavior will actually change– he may just get better at hiding it from you. That was the point I was trying to make. Especially considering that he lied when you first mentioned it to him (“I was hacked”, “I haven’t logged in for days”…)– that would actually be really worrying to me. Agreeing to do something because you were caught lying isn’t the same at all as doing something because you genuinely want to.

I know how Instagram works. In order to see his likes, you have to go to his page, see what pages he follows, and then check those pages to see if he’s “liked” posts on them. It’s not like you can get that info by accident. So yes, I do find that a bit creepy and stalker-ish, hence the micromanagement comment. I stand by that. These are just my thoughts, you can handle the situation however you want, of course.