I am so sick of hot & cold dudes

he is telling you he is not interested with his actions, men will never tell you they are not interested, some might but it is very rare. He doesn’t forget, you are not his priority and he couldn’t care less. If you were interested in someone you wouldn’t forget about seeing them simple as that

“Just remembered i was supposed to take you out on a date whoops”

Texted by a guy who not only stood you up, but gets a kick out of it and also doesn’t care.

Time to dismiss him with the quickness!

He does this to see just how further he can get get with disappointing you and how much he can get away with.

He has an almost sadistic side aka narcissism.

The long and short of it or he’s just not that into you.

A guy who blows hot and cold is hot interested in you enough, it’s huge indicator and red flag.

Just text him something like “It has become clear to me that we’re looking for different things. You’re a great guy but I’m trying to cultivate more meaningful and less stressful relationships with people. Take care and good luck” proceed to block or ignore but just cut contact, no negotiations or compromises.

Start seeing other people who want the same things as you.

Try meeting dudes in real life too, in real life, if a guy is not really interested he won’t ask you out or he makes it clear he just wants to get to know you better before deciding anything.

In Online dating,the date happens first then the rejection follows after meeting. At this point some people are already invested, only to have the rug pulled from underneath them.

It sounds harsh and almost cruel to say this, but with online dating, always assume rejection first and always assume you might also reject this person too. Online personalities and chemistry and looks don’t always translate to real life unfortunately.

i agree with the above poster except for one thing. the guy doesnt deserve that message. that message would stroke his overly inflated ego even more. i suggest you just stop bothering with him. and fade out. if hes smart he will understand.

You shouldn’t stick around for hot and cold behavior. I think the other posts here may be a little harsh for this particular situation because you said he’s not neurotypical and it sounds like he may even have ADHD too. That’s a bit of a different ballgame, although it doesn’t change the fact he’s not compatible with you, your needs, or what you’re looking for. So you’ve learned you probably don’t want to date guys who are in that space and it doesn’t work for you.

There are a ton of hot and cold guys online, and in general, for various reasons. Often it’s nothing personal or even intentional (which is why they don’t directly tell you their interest levels), so don’t take it as such. Yes, it’s incredibly frustrating, and yes, take a break or look for other ways to meet guys if you’re hitting your saturation point with meeting guys like that. You’re not doing anything wrong getting fed up with it, you’re exactly right in identifying it and bailing when it happens. Just hold off on investing until you know the person well enough to see if they’re flaky, and then say next! if they are, and you’ll be okay.

well he just reconfirmed what all of us told you. but as people say till you get kicked in the teeth, you wont leave it alone. and for that its imp that you block and delete his no and just dont bother with him again. but i think u wont do that. :)