I am tired

why is it so hard?! I honestly can’t anymore I am 36 years old.
I had two serious relationships and the last one ended in 2017. Since then I have not been able to find anyone that I like enough to have a relationship with! dating is so hard and on dating apps when you have a connection with a guy (even for something casual) pouf he goths or deletes his account or leaves you hanging! I take a break from dating but as soon as I want to try again, I am disappointed. The last hot guy I matched with deleted his account without saying anything! But I see people around me who can find decent guys they are attracted to and have a relationship with even on dating apps. Why is it so hard for me? I am just tired of all these players, losers, and heartbreakers. What should I do? Be celibate for the rest of my life? Did any of you manage to find someone?