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Latasha
He responded yes but he never asks me how I’m doing when I ask him or gives me a single complement. Also haven’t texted him in 2 days and he hasn’t texted me either. I have only known him for 3 weeks so it is really new. I just don’t know where I stand here. I let him know that I like him a lot and asked him how he was feeling. He said he likes me a lot too so I dunno. If he didn’t feel anything or wasn’t Interested I rather he just tell me so it is clear. I hate trying to guess and test the situation. Has anyone run into this before?
Tallspicy
Oh honey! You need to stop and you need to learn to how men communicate. At the beginning, you watch words and actions and a drop in either means he is not interested, no need to ask. Men don’t like to hurt women, so they often say in actions what they won’t say in words…. never back a man into a do you like me too conversation. It is needy.
Besides, when you first date someone, you should not be initiating anything… dates, talks, texts anything. You let them do the work until you are exclusive and boyfriend girlfriend.
If you ever have to ask a man if he is interested, he has already told you in words and actions that he is not. So stop asking.
Lane
I don’t understand why women want to jump head first into a shallow pool? You don’t know each other well enough, to know, if you are a good match or not. It takes time to really get to know someone, and by just listening, observing, and watching them will tell you a lot.
Here’s what you do know:
1) He likes you enough to keep asking you out but doesn’t know enough about you to determine how he feels, yet, which is perfectly normal. Some know right away but others need some time, as we are all different, and unique, in how we develop feelings towards another.
I for instance am a tortoise because I need to have a lot of intel on the man to determine if he’s not only ‘a man of his word’ but we mesh in areas that important to both of us.2) He doesn’t contact—that’s a strike against him.
3) He doesn’t compliment you—that’s another strike against him.
4) You don’t know where he stands. That’s a strike against you because he is TELLING you WHO HE IS but you refuse to listen to what’s important, to you.
My question is, why are you giving him all the power to decide here? You are the one who should know enough, to know, what YOU want or need with a guy and if he’s not able to provide it to you, then you distance yourself, continue to meet and date other, and see if he steps in, naturally, or not—if not you bounce (let him go)!
That’s the best way to date.
Maddie
Just flagging that there’s spam in the comments of this post.
ANM StaffKeymasterThanks Maddie!
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