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Hey guys, I need some advice from guys and girls. Recently, I decide to block an ex hook up. My friend gave him my number and we linked up and it was awesome. EXCEPT for the fact that I got WASTED and told him “we should get married” He told me the next day and I was mortified because I didn’t remember saying that and kept reassuring me that it was fine and that he understood that I was clearly wasted. Everything was amazing, I was so into him and vise versa. I was pretty excited, maybe too excited but I felt as though I was following his lead. Then he went off to London for a family vacation for about 3 weeks and texted me the whole time: saying he missed and couldn’t wait to see me and meet up etc etc. I also felt as though I was pretty clear that I wanted a relationship and he seemed to be on board by saying things like “my parents will really like you, they’ll think you’re good for me”
While he was away, everyone was asking about him- (BTW, at the time we worked in a town where there are a bunch of restaurants and all the servers from the different restaurants hang out and drink after work). When people asked I said that it was going really well and I told my close friends at work that we had pretty much made it official because we were only seeing each other. Then when he came back he had a bunch of things to do and didn’t see me until like 3 days later after I got out of work. He wasn’t as embracing as I thought he would be. I know it’s not good to expect certain things but I couldn’t help it. Everyone was getting into my head saying things like, “why hasn’t he met up with you yet, it’s weird, if you were my girl I would’ve made it a point to see you already” So I was pretty bummed and he kept being distant,. Finally, I asked him what was wrong and he said “it’s not fair that you decided we’re together, everyone is saying we’re dating” Which is weird, because to me, it felt like what we were doing was dating. And I didn’t really tell anyone anything unless they asked and people were instigating for fun, which isn’t a big deal.
Shortly afterwards, I said that I wasn’t feeling anything from him anymore so was the fling over? And he said that he didn’t have the capacity to be my boyfriend because of everything going on and his unstable state of mind. I pretty much thought he was putting me down easy and I was really bummed feeling like I had messed up something that could have been absolutely amazing. Then he said “we shouldn’t hook anymore, I want to but I don’t want to hurt you.” So then a month later we start up this weird “sexting” relationship. And it’s been going on for months. He will randomly text me implying that he wants to fuck and because I like him so much I always respond. And in the back of my mind I have that stupid thought that maybe he will fall for me again. I can’t help but respond because I am incredibly attracted to him. But we NEVER met up. One time he asked me to come over at like 1 in the morning and I could have, but it felt wrong. He would tell me he would call me and never did. And recently I blocked him because it was starting to make me really sad. He only ever talked to me when he was horny and I clearly have stronger feelings for him. Unfortunately, I don’t think I have a strong enough will to not text back if he texts me. But now I’m feeling like I made a mistake. What if he realizes that he does like me and tries to get in touch with me and can’t etc etc -dumb feelings but they’re still there and I feel like what I did was dramatic because we never fought. I also feel like he’s probably seeing someone or hooking up with other people and I’m not because I’m school and stressed out. Do you guys think it was in my best interest to block him? Sorry for the long post but its been consuming my mind.
RavenYes, blocking him is in your best interest.
Now, stop over thinking & move forward with your awesome life…
HarleyHsometimes you have to look after yourself. Blocking will help you get yourself together again.
Keeping the line of communication open means he can jst keep use this sexting thing to keep himself satisfied without any commitment or effort at all. Its not even a FWB situation but keeps you hooked and he probably knows that. this isnt a good situation for you so jst block and heal yourself and move forward like Raven said x
MariaThanks for reading or skimming my super long post and for the advice! I actually feel a little better now that you both said the same thing :)
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