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Lady B.
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stefanie
If you think the outlook is bleak for meeting a decent man, then that is what you will experience. If you think there are loads of decent men our there and you’re going to have fun dating them now and taking your time before getting involved again, then that is what you will experience. Your choice! What sounds better??
Almost free
What sounds best is being alone! I need to reconnect with friends, spend time making a great home for my daughter and me and doing stuff I want to do. Living life by my rules and not compromising what I want and believe in for the sake of someone else. I’ve learned a good lesson, and realize that all this drama was most likely my attempt to distract away from the fact that my marriage was ending and I felt a much needed connection with a cute guy who had the hots for me. Story over, the end!
Ashley
it seems like you’re getting emotionally invested in someone who just wants to be a player. Just drop him
Stefanie
Excellent realisation. You can jump back into the dating pool when you are more centered. Best of luck!!
wow
wtf at the commenters focusing on the divorce aspect? marriage is a represented by a contract created for systematic, organizational reasons. lots of married couples are unhappy for many different reasons–maybe because we’re just human, and the culture of love is completely idealistic, or just because. such a contract cannot transcend human nature– if, in ‘almost free”s mind she is over her partner, then she is free to move on. a relationship is a two-way street.
almost free, you deserve better. don’t reminisce on the part or on a partner that didn’t work out the way you imagined. it’s his loss, don’t ever feel like you need to be validated by another man, friend, or commenter to do what you need to do… we all seek closure sometimes but it’s not always possible. the best thing is to move on from the situation or “on to the next”!
Almost free
Thank you Wow. I know everyone’s perspective on life is different, so the commenters who focus on the unsavory aspects of the his post don’t really bother me. I think some people like to come here and share their moral views vs. providing solid advice. At the end of the day I’m fine with my decisions and will meet be forward with my new life and take relationships as they come. The universe plops people and situations in our paths for a reason, if I learn and keep moving, I’m satisfied!
LAgirl
Everyone has their own beliefs and morals. The think a person does not bring those into a discussion is narrow minded. You both even brought your own morals into your responses… It’s impossible not to do. Morals and ethics play a huge role in our society. We may not all share those same values, but to put someone’s comments off as mean spirited because you don’t agree is ridiculous.
Values are also a big part of relationships and should be in sync when two people come together. You don’t have to agree on everything, but on the big things such as infidelity, raising kids, etc. it’s important in order for that relationship to work.
Pushing aside this very important aspect of how we relate and communicate just illustrates that while you like to act open minded… You are not. Advice and comments on here will generally reflect the experience and morals/belief of the poster.
You can choose to agree or just do what you want to anyway. But putting yourself out on a forum like this will get you many times a response you don’t like.
Lady B
To Almost free firstly well done for being brave putting yourself out there and posting a very interesting issue that affects most women. I have never been married or divorce so I can’t possibly comprehend what you’re feeling or going through. All I’m going to say is the best best way to move on is by getting to know yourself again and being completely honest with what’s in your heart, who you are now and most importantly the type of person you want to be. People here and in your life will tell you what they think and in most cases as I’ve come to realise in my on life will form an opinion based on their experience and life expectations. I don’t agree with forming an opinion based on a post on an online media outlet. Ego is a vice, one which I personally continually try to avoid as I feel it clouds our judgement and how we see the world and other people. Props to you for reaching out and trying to find an answer to an area in your life that’s not working out for you. Keep learning, working on yourself and the rest will take care of itself. That includes your love life too. Sending out universal love to you and your life’s adventure.
B xx
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