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Sunny
So today I got dumped by my boyfriend after 2 months… He said he is started to have doubts about our relation and because he has doubts, he wants to end thing. Since he doesn’t want us to stay longer and get attached and for him to treat me badly because of these doubts! He said he felt that the relationship was starting to become plutonium for some time ok…. And that he had moments when he had feelings and not continually. He said he follows his emotions and he acts on them. He said maybe it’s not the timing but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. Also he has been married and divorced after 1 year of marriage he was with the girl for 10 years. I was a bit surprised we only have been together for 2 months and I thought things were cool, in the beginning it started quickly but to be honest lately I felt he was slaking off and he was becoming sooo boring no conversation no nothing. But what was weird he was like yeah I don’t want you to think I am dumping you and maybe in one year I will be in a better place. And tell me how you feel about this relation? You won’t be sad right? I don’t want you to think I am a dick etc… pffff I am tired just by writing this BS lol I don’t get it can you help me please?
Khadija
Seems pretty clear to me.he didn’t feel strong enough to continue dating you.
This may not be what you want to hear but, at least he didn’t drag things out.And if he was becoming boring to you after 2 months I’m surprised you didn’t end it yourself.
In any case it sounds like this relationship had nowhere to go and ended at the right time.
kaye
What don’t you get? This is what dating is about…to see if you have long term potential. I think he gave you an excellent explanation. Much more than most women get!! He has doubts and his feelings haven’t developed for you so he ended it after 2 months. I assume you meant platonic instead of plutonium in your post. His feelings weren’t developing beyond friendship for you.
Also it sounds like he realizes he’s not really ready to date after getting out of a 10 year relationship which ended in divorce after only a year. It takes time to get over a failed relationship that lasted that long. He probably does need to take year or so break. You felt him slacking off and not wanting to carry on conversations with you so it shouldn’t have come as a big shock. His reasons seem perfectly clear to me and he explained this to you so what don’t you understand?
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