I hate when guys ask for pics

You are definitely not the only one that feels this way. I get highly annoyed when guys that I’m not with ask for pics, even ones that aren’t considered sexy. I understand if you haven’t seen any pics and have no idea what I look like. But every single guy that does this has seen numerous pics of me on FB or IG. It’s no mystery as to what I look like. They just want something that’s special “just for them.” They have responded this way when I ask them why they need to see more.

To me it screams desperation, as well as expectation. They are basically asking you to do something that you should want to offer on your own. Furthermore, why would a guy I’m not with expect me to take time out of my day to take a pic that is “just for them”? Do they really think I want to waste my time trying to take a decent pic for someone I’m not even dating? They don’t truly have an interest in me, so I’m thinking logically about it…so what do I get in return? The satisfaction of know that someone finds me attractive? Don’t give a f***.

Idk what other women do, but I have so many men ask me this. So they obviously must be having some success somewhere in the process.

Reading all the responses to this post makes me realize how selfish and self-centered most women are. Yes, I agree it is unsafe to send pictures of yourself to a stranger. And there are a lot of losers on online dating sites. But….you ladies should learn to empathize with other people. I have heard from male friends that SO many women post old or outdated photos. Then they show up for the date and it was a complete waste of time. Attraction is a big part of a relationship and if you don’t have it, you can’t force it or make up your mind to be attracted. It doesn’t matter if you tell the guy your pics are current. ALL women say that but many times, it’s not true. Bottom line, my advice is – if a guy is acting weird and creepy then by all means cut off contact. But don’t let a guy asking you for pics put you off if he seems good otherwise. Why not set up a Skype account with a screenname that does not reveal personal details (like your last name), and offer guys to talk on Skype before you meet up. Btw, this will protect you ladies, too. You can get a better read on if the guy is a creep and you will avoid wasting time if HE does not look like his pics or if there is absolutely no chemistry. Then he can also see you look like your pics. Win-win for everyone :)

@jenna They can just take a screenshot of the facetime. women have the same issue with guys’ photos being outdated. We ALL have to gamble. The best is to spend an hour or less at a first meeting to determine if the person has misrepresented themselves. Leading with negativity- i.e. Send me a pic so I know those are real photos—-what good can that lead to. Bad first pre-date!

Yes! Literally had a guy tell me ‘he’s too old to deal with this’ because I said I’m not comfortable sending my photos to strangers! Then he deleted me 😂 Lol
Not to mention he had already saved pictures of me to his phone and proceeded to send me selfies every day without me even asking for them.

“Just finished Nando’s” (pic)
“I’m in the hospital” (pic)

It’s very tacky,

100% agree!

I don’t really get why swapping pics incites such hostility from you ladies. I have chatted with many women online and it has been my experience that pics are frequently exchanged. I send random pics of my day and vice versa. I think the crucial part of that is that pics are EXCHANGED rather than a one sided pic request. I’ve been known to ask girls to eitherskype or send a proof picture of them holding a card with my name on it to prove that they are who they say. Catfishing is a thing and its happened to me before. But I don’t normally make requests like that unless I’m suspicious that the girl is hiding something. I also agree with the meet in person asap idea, but that isnt always possibledue to distance. So thats kinda my stance on the whole thing.

And again I dont think it is a big deal to ask for pics. Like we might be talking and you mention some fun thing youreheading off to do. I’ll often say hey you should send pics. And vice versa. From a guys perspwctive when a girl gets weird about sending a pic, it screams one of two things: either you arent the person in the handful of pics you have on your profile or I dont even mean enough to you to be worth the 2 seconds of effort needed to send a pic.

The nature of the convo is a factor too. If its a dating app and youve been talking regularly for a fewweeks then pics are no big deal. But if its just a casual pen pal or you only just started talking then I can see it being a little off putting. And again I never insist on additional pics unless youve done something to make me suspicious (ie caught u in a lie, u avoid meeting irl or any other way of connecting on some level in real life). Just my.02.

HATE! major pet peeve. is it laziness on their part? it’s like, refer back to the site, I have pics up! it really bugs me.

I think there is a difference between asking for a pic or two to verify a potential date’s appearance and pushing for multiple pics instead of even trying to get to know you. Or asking for sexual pics before you’ve even met, let alone had sex! Personally, the latter two (pushing for multiple pics instead of getting to know me or asking for sexual pics) are a complete no go for me.

I believe those are the situations most of the women here are complaining about. Regardless, the bottom line is your personal boundaries are yours alone to decide. If you’re okay sending pics, good for you. If you’re not, good for you. Any guy who isn’t okay with your choice isn’t the guy for you.

I agree it’s really annoying that two seconds into a conversation and sometimes even before they say “hi, how are you” the guys asking to see a picture.

The way I’ve handled it in the past is to explain my reservations about sharing my photograph with a complete stranger. If they don’t respect that, I do one of two things either I block them straight away or my favourite is to send them my picture and after they have responded, usually favourably, I explain to them that I’m blocking them because I have no desire to be involved with any man who could so completely disregard my feelings over his ‘need’ to see a picture. After all he’s not going to be involved with my picture he’s going to be involved with me. They usually get angry or beligerent at this point and that tells me all I need to know about them.

YES!! very annoying. One time i asked a guy why so many pics he said it’s cause he doesn’t want those that everyone online has or have seen them. But when i asked him to send me one of his he says i have to send him one of mine FIRST for him to send me one. Im like okay. i take one and send he does same then he kept asking me for more on my side. It’s exhausting and annoying. Total turn off. How much more do you need man??!!! I stopped chatting and he got the idea after that cause he asked if i lost interest in him because he asked for the pics. What do you think dude?!

Asking for more pictures isn’t wrong afterall. My BF told me stories of many dates he went to and was surprised to see that the girl was so different than her pics and he was hating his first dates. I am not very photogenic, when my present BF saw my pics and saw me live there was a difference. For him I look way better in person than my pics. If a guy is really interested in pursuing something they would want to know more about you and/or ask for more pics. If you don’t feel comfortable simply let them know that you prefer meeting up in person.

Well, I met this guy who wanted me to send him a picture everyday. It kind of scared me because I thought he is just trying to figure out where I am. So as a way to keep tabs on me. So I refused and he would beg. I couldn’t stand it. It does kind of feel creepy to know that a stanger has your pics and is using them to fantasize about you or whatever he is doing.

Never had this happen to me. Maybe because I include full body shots (NOT bikini/sexy dressed– just looking nice and pretty but representative of my actual figure/body type), many faces pics from different angles… dressed up and natural/outdoors, and state that they are all recent. What else do they need to see? I think if you are being asked this they either have suspcioun your photos are hiding something (i.e you are much bigger than you appear to be) or they are angling for scantily clad/sexy stuff in which case they are disrespectful and should be immediately ignored. If someone asked me for more photos I’d say “why and what do you mean”. Make them answer– if they tried to say they wanted something suggestive I’d ignore and block. The only reason these idiots continue this beahvior is because a small percentage of clueless women will happily indulge them, which trains them to think the rest of us are dumb. the more we make it clear that we won’t be treated as such, the better for the next girl/woman.