I have some questions about losing my virginity, and dynamics in sex.

1) It depends on the guy, some guys love having the control and being the one in charge, but others want to give it up and be submissive. However from my experience most guys like to be dominant and take control.
2) Like the above answer it depends on the people, some girls hate choking and some love it, some men hate it, others like it because it’s a form of dominance.
3)A lot of the times you can gently move their hand or whatever body part to where you want it and they might get the hint or if they do something you really like show them either verbally by acknowledging that you like it or letting your body react.
4) Guys for the most part can get the hint of when you’re in the mood, normal kissing and the “I need you” are different and if you let your body do the talking in the way you talk and move that can turn him on. If you’re not as “hot’n’ready” as he is you can do more foreplay or you may need to relax, if you still aren’t as ready as he is then maybe you’re just not ready.
5)It depends on the girl, for some it doesn’t hurt at all for others it is extremely painful. It also depends on the guy and the way he treats you and what he does, make sure that it is someone who will take care of you and your body the right way.

1) I don’t think 0% is going to work. You can’t just lay there, do nothing, and expect the man to enjoy engaging in this all the time. There are many different ways of exhibiting sexuality and positions that will provide heightened pleasure for both of you, so you need to, at a minimum, be open to experimenting ways to not only arouse your partner and try things or not a lot of guys are going to want to do 100% of work with an emotionless and/or motionless body.

2) Never been choked in my entire life! I think this is a low % fetish with those who enjoy sadism. Thankfully I never met those guys lol

3) Communication is key. You need to feel safe and open about discussing it with a man when you are being pleasured or not being pleasured as every woman’s body responds to stimuli differently—what works for one, won’t work for another. Do not fake it! Men deserve to know if they are satisfying you or not, or you’re going to have a bad sex life if you can’t be honest with him or yourself as it will eventually hurt and sour a relationship if your not truly enjoying it.

4) Just ask! This is a great way to start the communication by asking the man what makes him feel good, and have him show and direct you so you’re not hurting him or doing it wrong as a man’s penis can be sensitive and painful if you do it too hard. Starting softly with light caresses would be best and then increasing it only if he requires more pressure to be pleasured. His body will respond and show arousal if you are doing it right, and they will stop you if it hurts, no differently than you need to do the same if its too painful for you, by saying “stop, this is hurting too much” or “go slower its hurting a bit.”

5) That’s not too large, close to average, so although the initial penetration will most likely hurt if you’ve never been penetrated before, some good lube and him going super slow should help ease any pain you might feel. After a few times your VG will most likely adapt to it, if it doesn’t hit your cervix, as that’s usually what causes the pain.

Just know, some woman orgasm through sexual penetration but most cannot and require clitoral and G spot stimulation to achieve the most pleasure. I think it would be best to get a few *toys* (jack rabbit, butterfly, etc.) to practice with so you can learn where your *sweet spots* (clitoral and G) plus loosen you up a bit for penetration so your not scared or too clenched up which could cause you more pain. It would also let you know as to whether or not respond to penetration stimuli, with just a penis in or not. Again most women don’t, so it would be good to know this prior to actual sex so you don’t feel let down if you can’t orgasm this way, and will require external foreplay (sweet spots) to properly orgasm, as well as knowing what an orgasm feels like. When a man does it right they are awesome!!!

Good luck and try to have some fun with it by being open to exploring not only yours but the man’s body too—they don’t bite unless you want them too haha.