I haven't heard from him in 2 days…

Continue no contact. Give the situation some time and if he doesn’t come back around then there is your answer. Some men aren’t very good at just flat out saying they are not interested in pursuing anything with you. And sometimes they just back off to see how we will react. I know it sounds like mind games but it is what it is. Take this time to re-evaluate your expectations and date other guys. Hope this helps :-)

Oh trust me I know more than anyone that 2 days feels like 2 years when it comes to matters of the heart. Keep us posted!

Yams, no I was the one who asked if he could do a certain night this week, and he was the one that said no to that day because of work… I’m open during the week or weekends.

For an update, I heard from him just a couple hours ago, as if nothing were wrong, so I’m going with that, haha.

I figured I was probably overthing it, so I’m glad I withheld saying anything.

I did consider the fact that maybe he could think I don’t have any interest in him, but I’ve already told him that I really like him and want to see where this could go. We’ve both expressed that, so I don’t think that he’s thinking I’m not interested… He did “joke” through text the other day that maybe I had bored of him… I assume he was joking but it did get me wondering. I’ve not acted or texted anything that could be misconstrued as not having any interest in him. So we’ll see.

Thanks for the input though!

I totally agree with your friend. That texting was lame and convenient… Just enough to keep you tethered.

If a man is really interested he will ask you out and spend time with you. He will phone you, not just text you.

Don’t ever fall for a man saying such things as ‘ are you bored with me?’ ‘ do you like me?’ Etc…. This is his way of testing how into him you are. Men get lazy if they know you really like them this early on.. It means you are not a challenge. The man actually is the one who gets bored.

Hold your cards closer in the future.. A man who really wants you has to feel as if he won you.

You are way too invested in a man you only met with once. Him not having sex with you isn’t necessarily out of respect. My now husband held off sex with me (I did to, but he didn’t push it and agreed no sex those first several dates). But I learned after the fact when we became bf and gf that he did this because in the past he found women get too attached after sex and he didn’t want I deal with it. So he purposely held off sex until he decided he really wanted to be with that woman.

Men say things in the moment. He likely enjoyed the date, but his lack of movement to set another date shoes low interest.

oh man. i haven’t heard from my love for almost 6 weeks now. i know it seems like it’s an obvious end of the relationship, but… i am still not sure. for we have had long no-contact periods before, and i know that he wouldn’t be able to meet now, and he has always contacted me only if it was to arrange a meeting. we didn’t break up, but there were some problems (life, let’s say, came between us). but before the problems appeared he seemed crazily into me, we have had plans, he just couldn’t take his hands out of me, was really nervous and awkward and intimidated sometimes, and you know,the happiness in his eyes when he saw me smiling. and now, suddenly – silence. it’s not like he’s not responding, because i didn’t contact him at all. i was just waiting for him to contact me. so i seriosuly don’t understand. it was driving me crazy for a first few days, but now I’m just too tired… so I don’t care.
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anyway, you shouldn’t worry about two days, girl. give him at least a week before you start to panic.

Ladies,
Just because YOU felt there was chemistry does not mean he did. It does not matter what he TOLD you on the date. Men will say things in the moment that they never mean afterwards.

A man is more practical than a woman. He will have a fun date and then may walk away and think “nah… not my cup of tea.”

You need to go into this with zero expectations on the first few dates.

Men do not date to get into relationships. women do. A man will only pursue you for a relationship if he feels you are ‘the one.’ every man has what the qualities are for ‘the one.’ there is nothing you can do to change this.

i mean, he seriously didn’t say anything. i would understand if he told me ‘i can’t do this any more’ or sth. but he didn’t, and last time i saw him he looked so so into me. in fact, he’s been chasing me for all these years that i’ve known him (and i’m not talking about what he was saying, but about all of the non-verbal signs. i’m old and smart enough to recognize them.) so last time i saw him he looked like he’s crazy in love. and then i don’t hear from him for 6 weeks. seriously, that has never happened to me before. maybe he’s just a weird person, with some issues… i don’t know.

Need some advice please. I met this guy on an online dating app 2 months ago. We met up and got along really well, there’s some kind of connection we have that’s hard to explain. He txted me that night saying words cant explain how amazing you are and im just so lucky to have met you and have you in my life. Have met up 4 times after that. We kept txting each other few times a day. On NYE he told me he wishes we were together hopefully next year. Met up NYD went back to my place watched a movie and cuddled. We had sex that day. We cuddled a bit afterwards and said he had to go out for dinner and that he’d txt me after dinner, he didn’t. I got a message next morning saying sorry I didn’t txt you back. I asked him a week ago if he wanted to go to the movies he said that would be lovely babe. Last Sunday txted him movie times. And got back. ‘Just woke up had migraine all morning trying to recover now hoping to still be ok for later if that’s ok ‘i said ‘yes of course later will be fine.’ Didn’t hear from him all day but I was.nt going to bother him as I know he gets bad migraine’s. I txted him in morning that I hope he is feeling better. He said ‘took work off today as still not the best after yesterday’ told him ‘hope that he is feeling better soon’. He said ‘thanks babe hope we can still catch up when I’m feeling better.’ I said ‘of course we can, would like that?’ I txted him late that night saying ‘hope you had a relaxing day and that you are feeling better.’ He txted back and i txted a good night message. I txted him again in morning just to see how he was and he said “bit better’ was at work he said ‘have a good day????’ i txted back and a few hr later, he did. I txted him Thursday night how are you doing and how was your day and have’nt heard back. Have I annoyed him with the how are you’s? I just care about him but haven’t told him that should I? And how? I hope I haven’t annoyed him. Or pushed him away, I think I’m starting to get feelings for him. I do miss him and he has told me the same.

“Do you think you might wanna see me this week?” – this is what a 39 year old guy asking you? He should have asked “When can I see you this week?”

39? never married? This is a red flag guy. You are 29, do not waste any of your limited time on this guy. It is hard to find a guy at 29, imagine 5 years from now? it will be doubly hard. And those guys don’t have a biological clock, but you do.

2 days no texting? I don’t know about you ladies, but why, just why you are allowing yourself to be in a situation when you don’t know what’s going on, wondering, waiting? Is he worth it?

There are red flags and there are yellow flags, act on them. This is not a good relationship or husband material, so be wise, think of your future and move on.