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Roge
Hi guys,
I just some piece of advice, i was dating this lady and everything was perfect, but as with my relationships i tend to sabotage it when the lady becomes madly in love, i deeply loved this lady but when she noticed i was withdrawing she decided to break up with me, i didn’t feel it back then 4months ago, but in the last month i started missing her and tried contacting her, initially we spoke and she told me she had moved on as i hurt her with the no contact, i recently noticed she blocked me on every platform when i tried reaching her again and i have been feeling extremely bad because and unable to sleep because everything in the home reminds me about her, most times i dread going home to the house. I think i am more annoyed with the fact that i cant see her to apologies as she relocated to another state so i am in a zombie mode wishing for her to forgive me even though she doesn’t even want to hear my voice.
Please how do i get over this?
Liz Lemon
You said “with my relationships i tend to sabotage it when the lady becomes madly in love.” This is a huge problem. You will never have a successful relationship until you address this. My advice to you is to focus on yourself and work on yourself, so that you can overcome this problem and be emotionally open and available to falling in love.
From the sound of it, you didn’t want her when she wanted you (you started pulling away when she fell in love); but now that she’s broken up with you and doesn’t want anything you to do with, you desperately want her and can’t get her out of your mind. So you basically want what you can’t have. See how that works?
This woman has relocated to another state and you have no future with her. I suggest you accept that it’s over. Work on letting go. Take a break from dating, take up a hobby, do volunteer work, exercise, hang out with your friends and family. But most importantly focus on addressing your issues, seek therapy if necessary. You need to heal yourself so you don’t keep making the same mistake in the future.
Gigi
I am in the opposite end of your girlfriend right now. My boyfriend is withdrawing and I am in the midst of ending things as well. I am not sure though if I should do it or not cause he’s such a great guy and maybe we are passing a phase. I am trying to keep things interesting but my anxiety is causing this relationship to go more broke and it hurts. So if my guy will miss me only after we end it I wouldn’t trust his sincere and also if it’s recent it hurts on both ends. Im sure she misses you also but if you love her why didn’t you fight for her? It’s not too late give it time and approach why it didn’t work the first time.
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