I lost my virginity and I felt nothing

I guess I want to know if its normal to feel nothing at all. I mean not great is one thing, but hardly even knowing it was in there is another. I guess I also wanted to know if it’s possible that he wasn’t inside me and thought he was. It was very dark, but he is also pretty sexually experienced so I assume he would know.

Also, what could cause a condom to fall off? He told me that he has had lots of sex and that’s never happened before. And even though I was on the pill we were both really worried and within an hour I took EC ellaone. I know there wasn’t really a need but still…

Thanks Laura. And as for my feeling “almost nothing”, I didn’t mean “almost no pain” but rather, “almost no sensation at all”.

And yeah, I am pretty upset about the condom. A bunch of ppl were telling me not to worry so much and just use a condom but I insisted on being on the pill as well. I guess I was right!

I lost my virginity at 24 as well and my first time was strange too. It was slightly uncomfortable, I bled a tiny bit and I didn’t feel any “feel good” sensations. It wasn’t until the second time we tried (like a week later) that my hymen actually tore (thus resulting in lots of blood).

Maybe it’ll feel different the second time around. But to be clear–I didn’t start having enjoyable (for me) sex until almost two years later and with a different guy. Personally, I think it takes time to learn what works for you.

Did you pregame?
Most women need to be stimulated before in order to enjoy V-sex

Was he fully hard? I’m just wondering if he went a bit soft? That would account for less sensation for you and the condom falling off. I know men quite often get quite nervous having sex with a virgin as they’re scared of hurting or upsetting her. Maybe his nerves got to him?

It will most likely get better with experience.

I’ve only ever felt absolutely nothing once and that was with a man who was microscopic. Now I have a slight case of vaginismus so for me it’s almost always painful in the beginning. My current Bf being the exception, and he has the biggest penis I’ve ever been with (not that I have much experience tbh).

Oh and my first time was extremely painful, even after plenty of foreplay and a Tiny penis. It’s not thát uncommon.

Thanks so much for all the feedback guys. So we tried again the next night, and once again I got the suspicion he wasn’t actually inside me but just sort of rubbing himself against me. Both times we were in a prone position with him on top. Anyway so we decided to try me being on top, and in this case he could hardly get the tip in because it felt so weird and hurt me. So now I am pretty sure he was never in me at all! At least I am not pregnant, then, lol. But I guess I am pretty surprised he couldn’t tell that he wasn’t in me. Is that at all normal?

Well I hope after practicing for a week I can actually have the thing in me. When we tried on top it felt so uncomfortable him trying to put it in there. Ugh I knew it felt too easy.

Thanks again for the advice. I guess the only way is to just push it in and with bear the discomfort until I finally get used to i.

Oh, and as far as the first time when the condom fell off, he said he came and then kept going because he wanted me to cum, even though he knew he should have stopped. But now I am pretty sure he was never in me.

Thanks, Itsy. Why is it so fun for guys and so much work for women?! Grr, life is so unfair.