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Cage
There is a girl I know who I am pretty sure is attracted to me, on some level. She gives me a lot of eye contact, physical touches, and some other bits of attention that she doesn’t give to the other dudes in our friend group. And so, picking up on these signs has gotten me attracted to her! She also has a boyfriend who I don’t know (it’s not a long term relationship). I’m not out to actively “steal” her or break them up, but I would like to say something to her, just for the sake of being open with her, and because, who knows what could happen in the future?
So, my question to the forum: assuming that I’m not completely misreading her signals, should I say something? And, if you were the woman in a situation, what would you like the guy friend to say? Acknowledge the complicated situation, then say something like “I want you. Just putting it out there”? (let’s assume I can make that work) Or more of a “hey, I’m really attracted to you” (seems a bit bland?)
I already know not to get hung up on her or to expect anything to happen, and that I should be talking to other girls.
Maddie
If she’s acting this way to you, flirting publicly with you while she had a boyfriend, what makes you think she wouldn’t do the same to you if were dating? Why waste your time.
Raven
So your girlfriend is out & about & some guy comes up to her & says “something like “I want you. Just putting it out there”? (let’s assume he could make that work) Or more of a “hey, I’m really attracted to you … because, who knows what could happen in the future?”
How would you feel?
Queenie
Agreed with above. You’re flirting with fire
Queenie
I was in a similar situation, on the other side. I had a male best friend, and my bf accepted him and respected him. Until he made a move one night. He confessed his feelings, and it destroyed my relationship (was not serious, but had potential) and our friendship unfortunately was collateral damage. If he waited for our not serious relationship to end to confess, would things be different? Maybe. But it certainly didn’t work in anyone’s favor…
Cage
Got it, thanks for the advice.
Kim
Maybe this girl is just being friendly and you’re just misreading her? For some reason a lot of guys think because a girl is being friendly to them they misconstrue it as flirting.
This girl is in a relationship at the moment so I wouldn’t say anything to her. If she’s no longer in a relationship down the track and you’re also still single then you could say something.
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