I need help in understanding what just happened…

Well you know the answer already as you pre-empted what people are likely to say! So you know sexting means nothing to men. It’s a way to stave off boredom and get their rocks off. You can’t sex a man in to a relationship and women who are serious about a potential relationship don’t engage in sexting with men not their boyfriends because we all know that men pigeon hole women (Madonna/wh*re) and that remote interaction whether calls, texts or sexting does not create a bond for men.

Its not nice to do what he has done as its hurt your feelings but he hasn’t done anything wrong- he took what you offered, he wasn’t committed to you and he is a single man. He can do as he pleases.

Learn from this- don’t try and use sex to “get” a man … It rarely if ever works as men compartmentalise easily.

I have no criticism of sexting etc. It’s your choice but just know when you do that with men where there is no established relationship it sets a “tone” which is cool if you only want casual fun but if you want more sexting is best left off the agenda.

Hello,

Thank you both for your replies and your time,
im just hurt by the fact he completely played me. I asked to see him, and while i was asking to see him he was making some plan with another girl (that isn’t even his gf but another sex buddy) and that’s what hurts. He told me we were going to meet, then when he planned this stuff, he kept avoiding the question. He has been incredbily dishonnest. I’ve known him for a long time how could he ? it’s so hurtful. I haven’t stopped crying since yesterday. I’m in pieces.
I did sext because i wanted to see him. and instead he choose someone he didn’t (or did but i dont think so) do that with. Like, if you wanted to have sex with her, why not sexting her only her, and leave me alone if you have no plans in having sex with me again… :'(

Hello Ewa,

Well i really miss him :( and it’s just awful because instead of wasting my time, why not sexting with the girl he was planning to see.. i don’t understand and it kills me

You gave away the goodies and then said, why didn’t you pay me?

He thought…. I thought they were free why did you give them to me and say they were free by your actions?

Question here is why do you want to sleep with a guy who clearly has sex with a lot of women. You want to catch some disease. It’s not worth it.

Guys can go to hookers and stripclubs to get off and sexting is just another way. Cheap and exiting. It means nothing. For you in the future: you cant sex(t) a guy into a relationship. Thats not how they get attached. So you really need to change your attitude In how you want to find a partner and also what sort of guy to look for or you will end up doing stuff like this forever. You are wasting your own time

He met her because she probably had boundaries and he didn’t just see her as a sex toy. When you sext with a man that isn’t your boyfriend all you are is a sex toy. He likely doesn’t have much respect for you because you gave the milk freely …. why would he buy the cow??

I’m not sure what you don’t understand?! He gave you zero commitment and you didn’t set any boundaries or terms so he took what you offered. You don’t know anything about this other woman at all. Maybe he was sexting with you rather than her because he sees her as a potential girlfriend and you as some fun … who knows.

Learn from this – you cannot use sex to get a relationship… it doesn’t work!

Hello !

Guys, i dont want to date him !!! lol i do have a a crush on him BUT i know he doesn’t want to date me, but since we hadn’t seen each other in a while, i wanted after the sexting, to get physical as sexting is quite boring.
So my goal was to meet up and have sex basically, which is why i dont understand as to why he invited someone else. but kept hiding it

oh Anderson, i think im b’sing what i want with him.
I think secretly i still wanted (wantED) to be with him, but if i could have at least see him and have sex, i would have take this.

Now he can brush himself if he wanted to keep me as an option, because it ain’t happening again. since i discovered it, he’s done. worst is, he isn’t even apologising.
I know the girl he invited over, she’s defo not a women of value lol, she literally had sex with the whole town hence to why her ex left her.

I definitely think im now the last resort chick. not anymore though, as i refuse this title. So gross.

I’m upset, because before, it was never like that, and now, it’s like i slided down to the last resort stuff.

Im in no way saying men are sex slave ??? he’s just an idiot for not being honest. thats all.

I think i’m a lovely kind hearted women, and i did everything to please him, we’ve known each other for years, and every year passing for some unknown reasons, i feel like he treats me well less and less, but this man is a manchild who cheat, lie and manipulate and who can’t communicate. He refuse to even tell me what or why, all what he does is ignoring, or say whatever… he’s a baby.

Im not sure why you are bashing the other lady since you seem to do the exact same thing. If you want to be a lady of value, act like it. This guy just likes to play the field. So not worth your time

He did not lie to you, you just assumed he meant in general statements that he meant about you.

Why would you tolerate this malarkey?