I regret rejecting him. What do I do?

@Maria You’re right… It’s been a few weeks! And I don’t know if he’s trying to move on or if he hates me now…I mean, we still text and talk, but now, it’s mainly me initiating text conversations. I don’t like that…you know what I mean?

@Greenie It’s because he lives very far from me. He lives halfway across the globe and I don’t know if I’ll be able to go long distance. Also, he and I didn’t have too much time to spend together in person. We only had one day before I needed to return to my home in America. Plus, he and I have only known each other for about 3 weeks. It’s not long at all. AND, on top of that, he and I are 6 years apart (he is older than me).

@Greenie Right. And he and I don’t have a history at all. We had literally one DAY to get to know each other lol. But you have to keep the faith!

How long should this go on for? How long should this “friendship” go on for? And what do you mean “locked down in a relationship”? In a relationship with who?

@Greenie Right right. Understood. So basically, you DON’T suggest that he and I get together.

@Greenie Right. Exactly. I mean “get together”, as in, “be in an exclusive relationship”. He and I came to the agreement to be friends, and he said “Let’s take things slow. One step at a time.” I wonder what that means…

@Greenie I just asked him if I could see other guys while we are “taking things slow”. Was that a wrong move?

Okay. I just didn’t want him to get mad or set him off or whatever. You know what I mean?

The age difference is nothing but the distance is a big problem, that is just reality that you may be wasting time thinking you have someone whereas you may end up with nothing after a while. Of course that can always happen and we know we should feel ok alone too but honestly in a relationship everyone has needs.

I am in an LDR and we had known each other and had a connection for over a year before the relationship. We also spent more time together than most people do in LDRs bu now reality has hit as we cannot meet for two months. We are and have been considering Moving together but there are always many difficulties and realities with that as we’ll and I personally also feel that it is not a situation that can go on too long without a change and that is very challenging too and you both have to be really committed.

Also after a while no matter how much you communicate that cannot replace a real life relationship even if neither one for you is tempted by someone else your feelings perhaps change or weaken. Most the time at least as there is no physical connection, bonding, common memories. Most people cannot handle it and/ or their feelings are no strong enough.

To move is a huge commitment when you do not know each other. We spent weeks living together during the summer but even so living together for good without a lot of time spent together before is a very big risk and if you make that decision you have to have a Plan B. I have done it before and it did not work out so without a Plan B it was really hard.

he offered you to move in with him didn’t he? thats a big gesture for a guy to make and you just turn him down without even thinking it through. If you remotely liked him why would you turn him down? and if you never liked him why were you together?. why can’t you take a risk for something possibly grand to happen in your life?? all i hear are excuses but you are not doing anything and just letting it slip. unless moving in with him is not an option at all in that case you should let him know, if thats possible then you are just chicken.

lol, we see a lot of posting on old threads, but doing so just to shill your instagram account? What a joke.