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Kim
How old are you?
Gamer22
and don’t you think im over reacting to much, just over an unseen message ?
Kim
How old are you,,l you sound like you are about 10 years old.
Gamer22
im 18.. how old are you ?
Kim
Wow. You can’t write a real sentence or paragraph or thought. I would never have thought you to be that age.
You are acting juvenile, this kid isn’t interested, Not sure what else you want from here?
Read the articles and other threads, learn about how boys and men think.
And I’m twice your age… lol
Gamer22
I just don’t feel like writing properly, and I get lazy when I text
Kim
Stop being so lazy about life and do something with it. This kid isn’t going to be you man. But you have a life to live and might want to focus on not being so lazy about yourself. Maybe that’s why he isn’t into you, you sound lazy and boring.
Jamie
Kim, not cool. There is no reason to degrade and debase a young girl like that. All of us were like her at one point…liking a guy who clearly didn’t like us….but….but….we just didn’t want to believe it. Have some compassion. There is no reason to be so nasty to her. Does that make you feel good about herself? Teenage crushes are the worst and most heartbreaking. Give her a break. And as to her being a lazy writer, that’s how kids write these days when communicating.
And you don’t know anything about her or her life. She sounds like she goes to school and to youth group at least…she’s a teenager, what do you expect her to be doing, going to be CEO of a company? Like you were better than her at eighteen. PLEASE.
Kim
Jamie
Please share your wisdom with the OP and advice instead of bashing me. What do you have to offer? Most of the time you just come on here and be critical. Please share your vast wisdom for this poor young waif who is lost and can’t or won’t write a real sentence.Kim
And I was writing at college level at age 18.
Not saying a was a genius at dating, but if you want people to take you seriously, then act the part. Lazy is as lazy does,
Gamer22
im actually very atheletic kim, very.. and thanks Jamie !! your the best!!
Kim
I see… I stupid jock… lol
Gamer22
I can write a real sentence Kim, I’m not to smart, but I can write..
I even know the difference betweenTo – links to an action like ( to go somewhere)
Too – more than 2 people , “wait up. I’m coming to”
2 – a numbertheir – it belongs to them
there- a place
they’re – peoplealso Im taking German, now that I suck at lol , and not being mean to Kim, (I’m a Christian). I don’t like fighting.. sorry for being mean, if I was.
Gamer22
wait kim, no effence, but your sentence doesn’t make sense you said
” I see.. I stupid jock ” no effence at all, but that doesn’t make sense ? really not trying to be mean?
Jamie
Kim your bullying is not cool.
And I have already given the OP advice.
You’re a thirty six year old woman who acts about sixteen. Grow up.
gamer22
Jamie, can I get advice though? do you think he likes me ? like has a crush on me? or as a friend ?
Kim
Yes, Jamie! Please read your crystal ball or tea leaves and tell her!!!
gamer22
well kim, you’d have to know the whole situation.. I feel like this is not going to be a problem.. ive been through people you’ve all described, and this doesn’t describe him. he at least cares about my feelings..
Suz
36 year old, posts full of errors bashing an 18 year old for that and seemingly for being 18…self righteous much? Why are you so angry? Why are you bashing an 18 yo? Do you need the boost to your own clearly deficient self worth that bullying an 18 yo makes you feel better? Yeah, that’s not pathetic, vitriolic or patently pejorative at all and let’s not forget puerile and base.
OP, it seems like this boy is a little immature. Perhaps, falling back a bit and widening your options would give you some much needed perspective. I understand how all consuming your feelings might seem but at 18 you have so very many options. Right now, during this portion of your life is the time to keep those optons open. Fall in love A LOT, mad crush on all the boys who undoubtedly like you A LOT. Date A LOT… because as you get older and the path your life is going to take becomes more focused all those opportunities will start to slowly wane because your mind will turn to more pressing issues that inevitably show up when you’re an adult. Right now is your chance to be anyone you want to be without being shakled to just one guy. Just don’t let this guy consume you to the point you might miss out on all the really amazing things that being 18 has to offer, not to mention the literally limitless freedom you have. When I was 18/19 I was dating a guy in each of the top frat houses on my campus and the QB of the football team at a rival University and it was ok because we were all 18/19 and no one actually expected anything different from any of us. Stunning how things started changing at 20 and by 23 adulthood started to hit, careers, cars, mortgages, decisions about graduate school, marriage…nothing was ever the same nor had quite the same heady feeling of freedom to it. Take it from someone who’s more than a bit older than you, embrace 18 and squeeze every drop of freedom out of it that you possibly can, you won’t get that chance again. :)
gamer 22
okay thanks suze. but the thing is, is that he didn’t look at one message, that doesn’t really mean the whole thing is over between us, and actually I have good news, he did see the message, but he didn’t reply. it didn’t even need a reply, so see I was over reacting.. its just my nature , (because im caring) and ill just back off and give him so space, and see what happens.. I at least want to be friends with him though. so any opinions now? about him seeing the message, and not replying, (even though it didn’t need an answer).
gamer 22
and he could have forgotten, or been busy, or he could have been sick, or you never know
Jamie
Gamer22…someone looking at your message and not replying is generally NOT a good sign. I know you really like him and you want him to like you, but think about it. If someone you liked and wanted to date messaged you, wouldn’t you be sure to message them back? You would walk over hot coals to message them back! Not ignore it.
I was your age once, and honestly I was immature and inexperienced with love matters until well into my thirties so I know where you are coming from. I wasted way too much time (years in some cases)! crushing on guys who were not asking me out or giving me the time of day, grasping at any little show of interest. When a guy likes you, there are no mixed signals or mixed messages or questions. He is right in your face with it.
Gmaer22
2. You Think It Means He Doesn’t Care
Men communicate differently than women do, and they usually talk for the sake of achieving some sort of a goal or making a plan. A woman might get upset if she’s having a cute, banter type of back and forth with a guy and then he just stops responding but this really means nothing! To her, going back and forth and being all cute and flirty was their way of connecting, but to him the conversation wasn’t moving toward anything, and he just didn’t see a need to respond further. While the girl might be getting all upset and wondering if something she said turned him off, the guy is just going about his day and focusing on something else and is completely unaware of the mayhem he has incited within her.Gmaer22
also the message didn’t need a reply ? should I just give him some space, and see what happens ?? I was going to give space anyway
Gamer22
it turns out that he is still okay with me. I told ya its nothing to worry about. Just wanted to say that. He still acts like his normal self, same way.
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