I think my boyfriend will forget my birthday and I am absolutely traumatized by

*to be fair

I’m sorry but I think having 100 day anniversaries is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard! You know who has 100 day anniversaries in the US?….children in elementary school! When my children were in school they had special things they did on the 100th day of school and I helped my friend’s child get ready for her 100th day class celebration before all this social distancing and quarantining started.

It’s one thing to forget Valentine’s day but every 100 days are you kidding? And you weren’t sleeping at night worrying he would miss the 200 day anniversary but were so passive aggressive you didn’t even remind him. It’s like you’re purposefully setting him up to fail or basing how much he loves you on whether he remembers what day of the month it is.

He’s sweet, caring and makes you feel loved but you’re so obsessed over “special days” you jump his case over these silly 100 day marks. If that’s more important to you than how a man treats you then yes please break up with him if he forgets another so he can find a woman who will actually appreciate him for the important things!!

And I’ve known him for a while and he counts dates.

This is absolutely absurd- I bet this is a joke.

I agree with Newbie: I’d give anything to have the most “traumatic” thing that happened to me be that my husband forgot my birthday or our wedding anniversary.

(He DID forget our 2019 anniversary (the 43rd) and I told him the next day. He felt terrible, but I meant it when I told him it just wasn’t that big a deal to me, considering that our 2018 anniversary came the month after non-sterile hardware put into his neck during a spinal fusion – and he came very close to dying from sepsis. This was in addition to the unexpected death of one of my child’s friends (who was like a daughter to me) at the end of March AND my father-figure died at the end of May. Let’s TALK traumatizing events.)

If you’re so worried about the possibility of his forgetting your birthday, there’s a simple solution: Starting seven days before your birthday, tell him EVERY NIGHT when your birthday will be and that his remembering it and getting you even a card would mean more to you than he could imagine.

The actual NIGHT BEFORE your birthday, tell him, “I know I’ve told you this every night for a week, but remember that my birthday is tomorrow and it’s very important to me that you remember it.”

Then on your special day, send him a text AND speak to him on the phone to remind him that that day is your birthday and, although it may seem [SEEM!] childish on your part, you’ll be very hurt and upset if he doesn’t remember to get you a token of remembrance for your birthday.

If he still comes home without a cake or a card or a present, you have to decide if you’d rather drop him and find someone new than live with knowing that he’s not going to be a “present guy.”

There’s nothing wrong with wanting him to remember your “special days,” but if “special days” don’t really mean much to him, you’re going to make both of you miserable as you pine for presents and he worries that you’re going to drop him if he doesn’t remember something that might not be all that important to him.

If you think about the situation and come to the conclusion that you cannot be happy unless your mate remembers all the holidays, then do both of you a HUGE favor and break up with him – and do it while you’re both still young enough to rebuild your lives.

You both have a right to be happy – and if your ideas of what will give each of you happiness are that diametrically opposed, neither of you will be happy in your relationship.