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Sara
I met my BF just over two years ago. When we met I was healing from a bad relationship and he really helped me. There were some issues during our time, we broke up and got back together. The realtionship was not always sunshine and roses.
We get on so well, we are so similar, but he is 13 years older than me… so he is slowing down in life and career, my life and career are just taking off.
We have not talked about moving in together. We recently talked about how he will be traveling quite a bit in the up coming months. He has his own business and can take time off as he wants. I only have a month of vacation.
I get it is unrealistic for me to expect him
Not to travel because I am limited. But I want to feel included.
Any ways… I feel my needs are not getting met and I think he served his purpose in my life.
Due to alot of bad in my life (mainly my dad telling me I am an awful person) I can have very low self esteem especially when it comes to relationships. I am in Therapy and working on this. I just dread the thought I might never find someone again. I know this is silly, and unlikely… I also think what other amazing person could come into my life.
My heart breaks thinking I need to end it and we will not be so close. It hurts to end it when you care more than they do.Mary
Dear Sara,
I realize your mind is used to companionship, but there really is something special about being single and being alone (not “lonely”, as you likely feel right now). You will have the opportunity to connect with yourself and nurture your soul. Try being still or going on nature walks, (turning off thought)and you can feel the peace within.
mama
Commend yourself for taking a look at your life, your needs, where he fits and where he doesn’t in all that, and give yourself the courage to move on.
As far as the fear of not finding someone again, I think we’ve all felt that fear at one point or another. If you are in therapy, maybe talk to your therapist about that fear and how to deal with it so it doesn’t become bigger than it is.
The heart break gets better with time. You will find someone who loves you and deserves you. It sounds like this relationship has met its end and that’s okay.
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