I want him back, but seems he's moved on

Seems, you have so much on your plate, why not take this time & get yourself together?

Hmm. I see two sides to this and I’m not sure which reflects your full situation.

One is what Liz describes. How invested and supportive was he really? How serious was he about making your plans to move in together a reality? Was he taking solid actions to move forward and end the distance, or was it only vague words? Were you really doing all the work? Is he someone who is only happy with long distance and fantasy who has a history of running away when a relationship gets “real?” I do think him citing you cancelling two trips due to money issues as a main reason for the breakup makes him sound like he may be a selfish jerk. I don’t necessarily think him hooking up with another woman quickly means anything at all, except he deals with big changes (like a breakup) by finding distractions. That may be another point reflecting his immaturity, though.

The other side of this is what Raven pointed out. The pandemic has been very difficult, and many people have come out of it worse off in terms of financial and career success and prospects. This is very tough and nothing to apologize for, but was he trying and trying to help and being very supportive while you got depressed instead? I’m not implying anything or blaming anyone by asking this, I wasn’t there so it’s just a neutral question for information. If he was there for you but felt things weren’t moving forward, but didn’t speak with you honestly about this before breaking up, then you may see that you’re incompatible together because he leaves when the going gets tough! If you were the one who got stuck and weren’t looking into new opportunities, then maybe he had a point that the relationship wasn’t going in the direction he wanted, and then it makes sense that he spoke this through with you and decided it wasn’t working. If that’s the case, then the only way to even try to fix this is to show him that you are taking steps to get your own life back on track. But you need to do that for yourself, not for him, since it may already be too late in his mind anyway. Or it may not address the incompatibilities, especially if he’s the type to just leave when you’re not living your life in the way HE wants you to. But no matter what, it’s still a win-win for you not to focus on him and instead focus on making yourself happier!

In the first scenario, he’s not worth your time. The second scenario means taking a closer and honest look at yourself and deciding if you want to make any changes in your life (for yourself, not for him!), and taking a closer look at the relationship and being honest with yourself about how compatible you two actually were and if you wanted the same things and he always showed up for you during the rest of the relationship.