I was suffering recently, he didn't care, not even a bit.


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    Maurie

    After 3 years, I decided to get into a real relationship. It’s been about 2 months now. I’ve been happy, but I’ve had a few challenges too. However, I’ll talk about the last challenge that made me walk out of his house without even saying goodbye.

    While having s*x, I accidentally got hurt. I didn’t realize it was a big deal until after 2 days of the pain not going away on its own. So I told him. I expected some consolation or get well soon response, but the best he could do was ask me why I didn’t tell him, yet I was telling him at that moment. I didn’t give the lack of consolation much thought.

    The next day, I couldn’t go to the hospital due to some unavoidable circumstances, so I had to endure the pain the whole day. Later that night, I slept at his house since I couldn’t get the keys to my house from my brother on that night. At his place, he pestered me on having s*x, yet I was telling him that I was in pain. He claimed that I was faking it and it was probably nothing serious. I still ignored this and didn’t give it much thought. Probably because I didn’t wanna fight.

    The day after, the first thing I did was go to the hospital. Honestly, I expected him to accompany me. Since he had previously claimed to be broke, I did not ask for any financial support from him. I had made an indirect request for him to accompany me to the hospital by making a joke of how I didn’t have the courage to go to hospital alone due to a s*x accident and that we would have to go together. I honestly expected him to accompany me to hospital, and the fact that he didn’t, hurt me a lot.

    When I came back from hospital, I passed by his place to pick up my bag before heading over to my place. He didn’t ask me anything about my hospital experience. Or even ask me if I was feeling better. He just talked about other things. I didn’t talk. I just sat there for 15 minutes looking at him and was surprised that he had the gut to ignore my situation. I then walked out without goodbye. He hasn’t reached out, and I haven’t either.

    I’m not the kind of person to request for sympathy or to question a guy why he hasn’t asked me how I’m doing. I thought we were in love and caring would come naturally.

    Guys, who the f**k I’m I dating! Did I get back to the dating scene for this? Did I just waste 2 months with him? Right now, I feel alone in this, yet we were together having pleasure.

    Is this what they call too much expectation or I’m I justified to feel disappointed that he didn’t wish me to get well or care even a little bit for me?

    I don’t even know what advices to ask you guys coz I have a lot of them. I even feel like posting about my other problem with him but let’s just focus on this particular one that’s the current issue. I will very much appreciate any advice, reactions, comments and guidance on what I should do from my post.
    Thank you.

    #936051 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    It’s been 2 months. You’re still learning who this guy is. He just showed you that he’s insensitive and callous.

    You refer to more than one problem with this guy in your last paragraph. Two months into dating should be the honeymoon period– you should be head over heels and happy. Instead you’re having major problems with this guy. This is supposed to be the best part of the relationship– it’s not going to get better.

    I thunk you should cut your losses and dump this guy. He hasn’t even reached out to your asked what happened at the hospital! And he pressured you to have sex when he knew you were in pain! He’s showing that he’s selfish & doesn’t care about you.

    #936053 Reply
    Raven

    Keep that closed door closed!

    #936054 Reply
    Tammy

    Hes shown u who he is. U did right by walkin out. 2 mnths is nothing. Do not entertain him again.. take sm time. Let ur body heal…

    #936064 Reply
    Maurie

    Thanks guys

    #936067 Reply
    Amy S

    Strange. How can he accidentally hurt
    You ? Surely
    You would
    Just say omg that was sore right there. That aside
    He is maybe just a bit awkward and
    Doesn’t
    Know what to say. I guess
    Only you can answer
    That. Pestering you for sex
    Is never good
    Mind you without or
    Without
    Feeling sore so it’s a no from
    Me.

    #936091 Reply
    Mary

    I hope in time you will be grateful for the experience so early. Do not go back.

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