If I dumped him….would he ignore me?

Let me put it this way. Guys point of view. Guy gets dumped because girl didn’t feel like he felt the same. He texts her every now and then but nothing comes from it. She tells him to not talk to her for awhile because it seems like he won’t put in more effort or fight for a relationship. It’s been two weeks and he didn’t text her after she says that. Is he just respecting what she says, or doesn’t really care? Would a guy fight even when told not to talk to her if he really cared?

If he cared, he would be contacting you to see you.

Yes, as I understand, you did let him know your reasons for the step back and he still is making no effort. Wise move because you put yourself first. Give more time and just keep moving forward.

You tell a man to not contact you so they don’t. Men are quite simple.

They don’t get subtle hints and reverse psychology.

When a women says don’t contact her the underlying hint is that she really wants him to contact her. He hears don’t contact. So he doesn’t. Straight forward.

Then should I just call him because not talking to him sucks. Maybe try to ease into starting a conversation? I don’t mean to play games. But it feels like I am. Then again, it didn’t seem like he really tried to get back with me either. I’m just confused and really miss him.

I didn’t tell him to come back if he changed. I just said don’t talk to me for awhile, I need space. Does that matter?

Grest advice Shabz!

Yes it really does matter the specific words you said and it is quite all right. It allows him to determine his feelings. Do not contact him because he will view it as needy and desperate. Keep the power. If his actions show it is not meant to be, just let it go aND look forward to the future and enjoy the present.

Katie, you weren’t playing games. You were merely realizing he was not showing he was investing in you. Therefore, you weren’t settling for bread crumbs. If you accept what he was giving you, you would not have been respecting yourself. You asked for space for this reason. If he is into you, he would step up.

I just ran into my ex’s friends at the grocery store. They looked at me and said “hey” and tried to walk away fast. I waved and said hello politely but it bothered me how avoidant they were. Has anyone else experienced this or am I being too sensitive about it. It was like they didn’t even like me lol.

I will. Not talking to him for over 2 weeks and it’s killing me. I can’t help but feel hurt he’s doing fine and doesn’t care. It’s hard to let go. I’m doing better day by day, but some times it’s harder than others. This is one of the hardest breakups for me ever.

Ok. I got dumped by my gf 2 months ago. I’m DYING to get back with her. I reached out a few times but she said “move on”. So I did. I have had no contact with her at all in 3 weeks. She contacted me by phone bc she ran into my friend and my friend laid into her for how she treated me. She got really defensive and took no responsibility. I took the high road each time. Never argued. Agreed with her decision. She was mean to me but I still miss the good times. But will I reach out to her? NEVER. She said “move on” so
I am. I miss her so much. BUt If she felt the same it’s incumbent on Her to
Reach out to me. And it’s incumbent on YOU to reach out of you are aching. Your problem as I see it is your ego is bruised. Just because he was distant doesn’t mean he can’t adjust. Men are adaptable same as women. Sometimes men just simply don’t know they’re not being attentive and need to be told. If you love him the. Reach out to him and SET BOUNDARIES. Why wait? If you really have feelings for him then tell him. He reached out to you already and you shot him down. I hate games. Say what you mean and then act on it. If you love him and care for him then act on it. The ball is in your court bc you put it there. I’m in a diff spot because my ex was clear. My ex also was brutally mean to me. I wasn’t spending time with her either but i was brutally honest about it. She was fine with it until she wasn’t. Then she snapped and abused the crap out of me. Blamed me. Called me names. Told me I will be jealous and she’s amazing. Said she’ll be with someone new soon and I will be jealous. Called me character flawed. I did NOTHING to deserve this. She just is immature and she said the only reason I was hurt by her comments was bc I’m “too sensitive”. Wow. Any guy ever gotten dumped and then had the girl dump ON you? Don’t let the chance get away.