If I dumped him….would he ignore me?

Well I did the same exact thing to my ex. We were talking again, seeing each other again, and I wasn’t sure I was ready to try again and that he was serious this time. So I told him I didn’t want to talk to him or see him anymore. I meant it because I wanted to move on. I tried dating a couple guys but I just couldn’t get over him and whether we should give it one last shot. So I was the one who had to contact him. He said he took me at my word and didn’t contact me. Later he told me he knew he was in love with me when I walked away. He had never told me that before. Things are amazing with us right now and we’re happier than ever. We’re talkong about the future and marriage and i really think me walking away made him realize just what he lost and that he was willing to stwp up and commit to mw. So I agree the ball is in your court if you told him you didn’t want to talk to him.

Let’s see if I have this right. You told him not to contact you cause you wanted him to contact you.

For Gosh sakes….I have no idea what you want or mean….and I am a female….jeez.

Look, say what you mean and mean what you say….or take a better code class.

All kidding aside….

I really am sorry you are hurting….but, I do not think this is the man for you….everything is so complicated because he was not giving you enough attention…the question for me is were you asking for a reasonable amount of attention or were you above and beyond what any reasonable man could give you?

Take a real look at that…it is important to know the difference and whether it is them or you that needs work.

I dumped him too and tomorrow will make a week. We were long distance. I loved him and still do.
But it was crazy, beyond crazy actually. Though I’m not one to hard determine how a person should act based on age, still there are certain behaviors that are expected by a certain age. For instance, if while on a train with a bunch of rowdy teens you expect them to be loud because that’s just the way it is, right or wrong. Yet if a 30 something gets on that same train and begins to conduct themselves like the teens, then you’ll certainly think something is off.

My ex bf is 76. Two divorces, lost 6 women including me. Yet, it’s true, what about me? I’m asking myself that question even now. What was it about him? It certainly wasn’t physical though he wasn’t bad but I’ve seen better. In hindsight I see he lacked self confidence, which is one of the things I look for in a man. He was controlling, liked to see if he can push my buttons (which he found out he couldn’t), tested me if he could intimidate me (he found out he was wrong), tried to see if I was jealous (which I am but in a healthy way) by returning my call one night and saying the reason for the delay was because “I was on the phone talking” and then hesitated obviously to see if I would ask “talking to who”? And the beat kept playing on. He’ll tell me about other women, my favorite was “she said she’s developing feelings for me.”

I never understood the games people play. To me it’s such a waste of time and air we breathe. Just be real with me. Do you want me? Do you not want me? It’s that simple.

Now if you don’t want me, then be a REAL man and tell me…by mouth…not with hot and cold games, for then you’ll have a problem on your hands. For I like to play gamed too. Yet those games will be of my making, by my rules.

Well he kept playing them. So it was time for me to introduce him to my rules called “See Ya.” And when I play, baby I play real…no “let me show you how to do it.” Nooo, I just do it. Like whipping off those old bandages…one shot. Ouch!

Yes, Im still human so I’m missing him because, like I said, I’m human. And it just happened not quite a week ago. I have my moments of doubt if I did the right thing, etc. But I know I did the right thing. I wasn’t happy, I was being ignored, disrespected, disregarded, etc. Oh he called, 5, yes I said 5, times in one night, the night I pulled the plug. I refused to answer. Why should I have? What possible reason would have sufficed for me to give him the satisfaction of hearing my voice for whatever reason he may have had? Was he heartbroken? Perhaps. Was he angry? Maybe. But whatever the reason he called me for 5 times, I wasn’t interested.

But I’m not a mean person. So last night I called and left a voicemail that explained my reasons. There! Now he can sleep soundly. But because he’s a player, he will never be happy, TRULY happy, where it counts.

Nat, you have to take this forum in context. If a woman is with a good man and there are no complications, she’s not going to be posting on this forum! So it’s mainly used up by women who are selling themselves short, being played by a player or have their own issues to deal with. It doesn’t mean all men are bad. Far from it! Most men are lovely and decent. Don’t let the forum get you down!

One more thing.

Can I? May I? Him. 76 years old, couldn’t keep, not one but two wives! Then, before we started getting serious, he told me “there were a couple of women I talked to but nothing happened.” There was also the one who “I fell in love with but she said she didnt feel the same way.” Now with the one he loved? This was from a man who said he’s looking for a wife, believes in taking his time, and told me about a woman he knows who “met, dated and married her husband in three months. He thinks that was too fast. Whatever.

Now going back to the one he fell in love with. Since he feels that knowing someone for three months and then marryjng is too fast, it obviously stands to reason then that the one he fell in love with he knew for at least that long, at least. So what is wrong here?

Actually the better question is: What was wrong with ME? You live and learn eh?

Women break-up for the stupidest reasons.