Ignoring Me

Well done. As long as you are resolved in your head and stick to this.

He didn’t respond because he simply isn’t bothered- as much as that may hurt- that illustrates what we have been telling you about his ambivalence regardless of whether you were friends before.

Amen to that!!!!
If you need the support to stay away, you know where to come.
Now go out and have yourself a great weekend!

Jordan
As for finding someone “better” nah I’m done. Me are too much trouble. Over it

I’m sure all women at some point have sworn off men.
I know now you are all in your feelings but, they are just that feelings and they will fade.

Take this time to heal, gain perspective, and learn from this experience. In the end you will become an even better person for it and one day ready for true love.

The main thing and probably the only thing to learn form this is that I did nothing wrong, i was a good friend to him yet I still got done over. Still got treated like shit. What’s the fn point

While you may not want to hear this you played your part in this too.
He is not the big bad wolf that took advantage of you.
After your first post he should have been gone but, you continued to see him.
This is not meant to make you feel any worse, hopefully it’s meant to put a fire under your butt so you can learn and not repeat this with another man.

well i mean i knew there was a possibility he would hurt me but i felt safe with him

Well this experience lead you here. Hopefully you can take all the tools and advice given to make wiser choices in men.I truly understand where you are coming from.

No one is perfect and some guys will get through your radar but, don’t take the falls and disappointments so hard and personal. These guys simply were not a match for you.

Through all the drama, heartaches, and disappointments I refuse to give up on love and neither should you. Don’t give him or any of these guys enough credit for taking away something so beautiful like true love.

Life will go on and you will heal. If you don’t want to believe that, I’ll keep on believing that for you.

I’m torn at what to say here, I think some people have given some excellent advice. At the same time I’ve been down that friends to best friends to more road…and I also have a good friend who is totally in love with a guy who is running drastically hot and cold and she just can’t kick it for more than a month at a time either.

I think, possibly, what some people may fail to realise is that in these situations is that things moved into the physical and the romantically emotional from a baseline of comfort and understanding. Unlike starting up with dating someone where the interest romantic in nature originally, or even just from casual friends, you go into it thinking that there is no way this great friend who has been there for you for years and whom you trust completely is then going to go and do a complete personality change. I know in my case it felt like a double betrayal, because not only was he being hot and cold and difficult to interpret and ignoring at random romantically he was also being incredibly inconsiderate as a friend.

So, in case this guy replies and you find yourself unable to kick him, here is my advice as it worked for me.

Take this time to really sit and think about things. Think out what you want from this guy, think out what you don’t necessarily want but can put up with, and think about some things that are a definite must have for not only any potential relationship to continue but that must include the friendship as well. After figuring these things out, and you are comfortable with the boundaries you have set, in person go speak with him. Let him know what you want, clearly. Ask him what he wants. And read all unclear or evasive answers as a no. This way, no matter how it turns out, you got some closure on the matter.

This guy sounds like the typical narcissistic psychopath. It may sound extreme,but from your post, some red flags jumped out at me. The classic behavior is the silent treatment, the manipulation, the verbal abuse, the blame game, and so much more.

You are hurting now, but you may have just dodged a bullet,one thing is for certain, he is not done with you, he will be back to give you more of the same, right now he is most likely with another woman, which means he has other supply to stroke his narcissistic ego, he realizes that you are on to him, and so he is punishing you for calling him out on his bullshit behavior.

Go to the PSYCHOPATH FREE website, it will be the best thing you ever did to get clarity.

keep us posted.

Myliee

Yes, the reason i forgave him was that he was drunk when he texted that abuse and i honestly thought it was just an unfortunate incident. He was really sorry and ashamed
So although he didnt actually do that again, he used silent treatment as verbal abuse instead

Confused

have you seen the website BaggageReclaim?

It is amazing

if you google “baggage reclaim” and “future fakers” she gives great advice about guys who do this and disappear