I'm bigger than my boyfriend- sex issues

I was starting to have that problem with a guy, he’s super tall but getting skinnier while I was starting to get too heavy. My solution was to reduce my calorie intake and hit the gym… There’s no other solution, you can try not to be self conscious but if the flab is still there it’s not going to work, might work with someone else but I can’t fool myself.

I’m sorry, I wish I could give you more options but It’s just not going to solve anything.

I know we’re supposed to love each other no matter what… But the truth is, if you don’t feel comfortable with your body and you have the ability to change that, then go for it.

I went through a similar situation. I was 3x the size of my ex. I’m really overweight and he’s short, small and skinny. He was my first. At first, I was really, really conscious of my body. I didn’t want him to see all my love handles. I have stretch marks all over and dark marks on my inner thigh. Things I didn’t want him to see at all. But he would always tell me how sexy he thinks I am and go nuts over my body. Eventually, I got comfortable enough to be naked in front of him. The things I hated about my body, he loved.

If you guy is enjoying the sex, he’s probably not bothered by it at all.

Thank you ladies for your replies, I am planning to start exercising again and eat better but it still takes time to loose weight
I know he said it doesn’t bother him and all but when he’s there naked with his six pack I wonder what he’d be thinkin when he just sees lots of fat on my stomach….
Either way I will start working on loosing weight but I wonder if there are some small steps I could be taking to just be comfortable being naked with him now

Babydoll style lingerie? Maybe even the really kinky easy access style ones, so that you don’t have to take anything off?
Make sure you are very well groomed and smelling great to make you feel good, sexy, seductive.

You just have to trust that he is attracted to you just as you are. Some guys really do like bigger girls and find them more sexy. He chose to be with you the size you are now, so there must be attraction there. Just trust it and don’t worry!

Make the best of what you’ve got too. Smooth, soft skin, nice hair and nails, all those things helps to make you feel more attractive. Even small amounts of weight loss will help with your confidence too.

Lucy does have a point – I’ve heard of guys dumping the girl when she’s lost the weight! This is very rare though.

My boyfriend’s teeny tiny and I absolutely love his body. We were friends for about a year before we got together. Possibly because I looked over him. I always thought I’d end up with someone bigger than me. I’m sure a lot of women may have felt the same.

Before I actually got with him, I actually had a conversation with his mother of all people about my insecurity with our size difference. (I can almost fit my hands around his thigh and touch tips)

And approaching him directly about it he just said most girls are probably bigger than him anyway.

When he looks at me, he doesn’t see fat, ugly or icky. He seems enamored enough with my body and sometimes I feel like a sexy marshmallow.

The best advice I have for you is to try focusing more on appreciating the boyfriend and less on hating yourself. Really try it. Hone in on what makes him so special. What you really enjoy about his body. And enjoy him. That’s what he’s there for!

Let him worry about his thoughts about you. And if for whatever reason he doesn’t like it, he’s the idiot for staying and making himself miserable.

Really, his thoughts DO NOT matter as much as yours pertaining to your body.

Hi, I’m also bigger than my bf we’ve been together for 4 years going on 5 we have a 3 year old child and our sex life is out of this world. I use to hide all my fat by wearing my shirt during sex but then he wanted to touch and lick my breast so i finally gave in and I’ve never felt so sexy before. I know it’s a year later but hey i hope you guys worked out💋

Algo – sounds like you are crossing the line with your work colleague. The way he speaks to you about your body is downright inappropriate and if I were his gf or wife, I’d be furious. You are disrespecting her by allowing your conversations with your work friend to even go there!!! Don’t
Be smart.
Be respectful.
Don’t be that girl at the office…big OR small…have more respect for your colleagues girlfriend and her relationship.

To the poster – I loved reading your post bc we are my alone. It sucks too that I think most “normal” women are by nature, plumper and curvier than men (it’s just how nature built us). But in our society these days…women starve themselves to be UNNATURALLY thin and it aucks for all of us! Lol.

My BF is smaller than me as well.
We have great sex so I know he can more than “deal” with it but he has even acknowledged that he wants me “healthy (e.g. Skinnier). I’m working on that.

In the meantime, I totally get the tummy fat on him when we are on top. Every time I try it I feel my fat on his stomach and I sit right up and stick out my amazing tits to try and distract him from my tummy! Lol!!!

I don’t have words of wisdom because I struggle like you. But…wanted you to know you’re not alone. I think the way we can do is try to be with a man who has enough depth and sensuality to make us feel GOOD about ourselves and also…do what we can to be our best selves. :)