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kaye
Well this is my official breakup up letter with you ANM. I’m not sure the exact date I found this site but I know It’s been over 6 years of me giving and getting advice on this site and after all that time together I didn’t think it would be right to do the slow fade or just ghost you ladies! LOL I started out trying to get advice on how to get my ex back. Then when I got him back I was getting advice on some of our disagreements and working to make our relationship better. Mostly working on myself and trying to heal from an abusive marriage and divorce. Then once we were happy and engaged and later married it turned to me just giving advice and having no need to post anymore. But the other day a poster made a comment that they don’t come on the site anymore because it’s the same group of ladies essentially saying the same thing all the time. I didn’t agree with that but then I realized there is a bit of truth to it…at least for me.
Sometimes I feel like I’m saying the same thing over and over about the same issues and I feel like most of the OPs aren’t even listening. And now that Admin is doing a great job monitoring the site I see more and more the number of people who are creating fake posts or posting multiple posts under different names and wonder if it’s even worth my time anymore. Originally I wanted to be on here to help other women the way this site helped me and I hope I’ve done that. I don’t think I would be in such a good place in my life and as happy as I am without finding this great group of ladies and their advice. Not to mention the advice and articles from Eric and Sabrina which are what brought me here in the first place! But at this point I feel like I’ve spent many years giving back to this site for the help I received and maybe my advice has grown stale and it’s time for me to move on and use this time and energy in another way. I wish all of you happy and healthy relationships and much love!!
Alice
Hi Kaye, I’m new-ish here so I can’t speak much on the fake posts, etc since I haven’t been around long.
To be honest, I’m actually enjoying the forums at this time in my life since I’m trying to distract myself and get over someone. I find that helping others is good for the soul when you’re going through your own heartbreak.
I understand your reasons though and although I never got a chance to engage with you, I’m sure you made a difference in many lives while here.
I’m interested in your love story, so if you want to share it that would be nice. If not though, that is fine too. I just find reading other peoples stories make me happy.
Take care!
ANM StaffKeymasterYou found clarity, and gave back to the community for years. That’s pretty awesome. :D
I understand what you’re saying. There’s always going to be women coming in, seeking clarity, often about the topics that have the same feeling, over and over. And yeah, some of them just don’t seem to listen. That can grow tiresome!
But, there are some folks who do listen, and they let us know that they’ve come away feeling stronger and more confident about their direction. That’s pretty cool.
I also think there’s a number of people who are looking for help who come across this forum and don’t post at all. But, they read threads with similar stories, and hopefully come away with something positive.
Anyway, all that is to say, I genuinely think that this forum helps people find clarity and confidence. You were a part of that, kaye. Thank you for being a part of something that’s helped people get to a better place.
Miss_A
Nooo!! Kaye, you’ve helped me so much over the years. Not just on my posts, but in your responses to others. I always found your advice to be fair, level-headed and wise. Just because some posters don’t listen to advice, and some get tired of “the same stale advice” (hello. the same questions get asked over and over), doesn’t mean it falls on deaf ears. I’m sure there are many more (like me) who benefit from reading this forum without chiming in often. We appreciate you! We will miss you!
Newbie
Hi kaye,
You showed up a bit before me and i had the same experience getting myself together. And then another phase where you start to realize we dont all fit the same model. It also has to fit you. Thats why i stayed here. Plus i like debate. i have a bit of a dfifferent opinion about when it comes to posters taking the advice. I think many women hear it but still hope their case is the exception. I actually understand that clinging on. So i like to think that maybe the advice for this case didnt take but for the next guy it will where you stick to your boundaries.
But i have a lot of respect for you and also your hubbie. Lots of love and inspiration. Ill play the song ‘say something’ from big world and Christina Aquilera for you since i been dumped today. Cheerskaye
Newbie… I hear you and that is one of my favorite songs!! Sometimes we are the exception! Stay strong!
Ss
Kaye! I love your advice. Thank you so much for all your input on here and I’m sad to see you go.
I’d also in a purely nosy way love to know your story from how/why you got your ex back and married etc.
Newbie- sorry to hear about your break up. You had seemed to have things sorted with the guy from your previous comments. I hope you are ok xx
Newbie
No worries ss, i was talking about kaye breaking up with us😄
Ss
Having read that back i can see that now 😂😂😂
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