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Diana
i’m 52 years old and my bf is 72 years old. We have been in an on and off again relationship. 3 years ago, he said he needed space to find himself. At the one year mark of him having space, he tells me that he knows he only wants me and nobody else. At this point i lost 50% of interest in the relationship. We talked, i decided to once again open my heart and self to him.
its been 2 years now that we have been an item.
2 days ago he tells me out of the blue, he was talking to another woman, i should have known better than to believe i was going to be the only one
Im never allowed to get sexual with him, cant touch him down below. im confused and sitting here alone and stunned again. why does he insist on hurting me?
Raven
Why do you stay with this guy?!
Donna
You are an option to this man.
Please move on.
Any man who tells you he is talking with other women is letting you know he’s playing the field.
Unless you’re ok with a casual thing, ghost this dude.
Newbie
Im lost why you give yourself to a guy like that. 52 is still young enough to do all sorts of fun stuff like travelling, going to musea, festivals and find a good guy although its not always in the cards once youre older. But youre hooked on a guy 20 years older, not allowed initimacy and he is more interested in other women. And your question is why he is hurting you? The painful truth is because he doesnt care about you. You need to care about yourself and move away from people that are no good for you. Better be a happy single everyday over this geezer example
Diana
Raven, Donna and Newbie,
Thank you all for your reply. Raven, I’m not completely sure why I’ve stayed with this guy. Companionship, too much time invested, 10 years too long ? I live in a very small town, dont get out much. I have learned from this relationship, too be very cautious and take time for me. Donna, I’ve finally decided to ghost the man. I’m not into casual relations, just always been one to fight. That fight is no longer in me with this guy. I’ve not comunnicated with him for any reason since the 6th of November, I’ve been focusing on me, refinding and loving the woman that has not existed for many years. That relationship literally has taken me way down, it’s like I forgot how to be intimate, sensual, and sexual. I know I can be again, just gonna take some me time. Newbie, I hope this response to the other two, gives you an idea of why I kept giving to him. If not, I understand, I’ve been lost as too why myself. That’s another finding me question. Thank you all again for your response. Will keep you updated on my journey out of this horrible experience.Newbie
Not talking since november 6 doesnt mean anything. In another case he came back after a year. I dont think you can do this on your own. Your selfesteem is pretty much ruined which makes ot even harder to quit this toxic relationship. I hope there are friends who you can talk to and also really try to find some professional help. All the best
Diana
We still have not had any contact. I have blocked him from any contact and sent all his things to him. I’ve been keeping with my kids and grandkids. Also, got back into coloring and diamond painting. I have no desires rekindle that relationship. I know I can do this with my family near by.
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