I'm ignoring his text message!?

I spilled my coffee reading this, I like the new spunky Jessy.

He is showing you what he likes and who he us and you have accepted him for who he is. That must feel great, though, no? Taking stock of the guy at a face value;) I predict great things for you!

You should have ignored his silence and wait for him to text first but yeah, just ignore and move on if you don’t like his lack of attention. Better luck next time.

Yup. ..agree with all Steffy said. Please say this was not the same guy from the other post.

you need to change your whole man mindset.

Yes, it is the same man and I made a mistake and will learn from this.

Thank you Khadija,

I officially blocked him from my phone. I agree with what you are saying 100% and I am going to be the one to end this first not him.

Another lesson learned for me :-)

Thank you Khadija,

I’ve been through a lot in life but I somehow manage to remain strong and always hold my head up high.

I am going to give myself (3) months to whine and complain about this man but after those (3) months are over I will consider it the past, the past is finished and I learned from it and let it go.

Unfortunately I cannot control everything that happens to me in life (LOL) but I cannot let my experiences reduce me or bring me down, I’m only human and here in the flesh.

Thank you again Khadija.

Jessy

Thank you Sherri,

I’m glad to see hear that there are other single mothers of (2) on here.

It is really not easy (LOL) thank you again, this is great useful information :-)

@ Sherri thanks for that advice. Shoot I’m going to check out these meet up groups myself,this sounds like fun!

Jessy, 3 months is a long time to waste on a man. He really is not worth all that energy.

While I’m not a mother myself I may also suggest doing some really fun things with your kids. Children give unconditional love and their pure innocence and happiness about life tends to rub off on others.

Actually Jessy, I think being a single mom is an added advantage if you are in your 30s or 40s. I don’t really know how old you are. Because then you don’t really have your bio-clock ticking and can take the time to get to know a guy to see if he is really one for you.

I tell all the guys I date that I take things slow. If they want to fasten the pace to which I am not comfortable with, then I tell them I am not comfortable with this. If they don’t listen, I point them to the door. NO ONE is going to make me do anything that I don’t want to do. As a result I never feel regret for what I do. In fact I do not really have any sympathy for the women who go into “victim” mode. It was a consensual decision. Now if you were raped that would be a whole other ball game. But how can a guy “use” you? I mean didn’t you “use” him the same way? What was the reason for getting intimate? You wanted to sex him into a relationship? Sorry it doesn’t work that way.

I had not dated in more than 10 years and never in North America. The rules are completely different!! I began dating with the mindset of teaching myself to date aka practice dating. I taught myself how to weed out guys who are just smooth talkers, pen pals, go fast and burn guys etc. etc.

I never pretend to be a person I am not. What is the point of doing that? If he doesn’t like me for who I am then I would rather not be with him.

I have made 4 awesome friends WITHOUT benefits whom I met on a dating site. YES, a dating site. I did not feel chemistry with them for a relationship but we clicked intellectually and when I offered them platonic friendship they jumped at it. They are great to hang out with if I just want to hang out with a friend, great to talk to if I need a guy’s perspective on anything, great to provide help if I need a guy’s help with anything. They like hanging out with me because they like me the person and my attitude and personality. It doesn’t matter to them that I didn’t want to date them.

Also I never guard my words in the sense if I want to express something I express it very straightforwardly without playing games. Many guys have told me that it feels awesome to be in my company as they don’t feel judged. I am confident enough in myself that it shows in my personality and my behaviour. In fact I have gone on a dinner date to a guy’s house where he cooked for me covered in calamine lotion because I had the chicken pox. I gave him a heads up about it and asked if he still wanted me to drop by and he was like sure. I was not self conscious about the pox on my face or body just annoyed that it itched. In fact I even made a joke about being more pink than him (he was white, I am brown). I was in very casual clothes as I didn’t want the lotion on my good clothes. I have been on a date with a guy where my ankle was hurting and I just asked him if he minded if I elevated it and he was like go ahead. I have gone on midnight drives with guys (which has not gone past sweet kisses) in a very casual attire with no make up or anything. They told me I looked good in casual :D . I made a joke of it that even if I didn’t I was not going to change into something else LOL

Its not really about the dating rules but all about your attitude. If you are happy about yourself, you will project that happiness and then people love to be around you.

That’s awesome Sherri, this is the woman we evolve into as we learn to love ourselves unconditionally. I am now this woman too and I never have to worry about a man’s actions again. What Jessy described is obviously a sex thing, and he behaved appropriately. Don’t settle for so little when you want more. Having a sex thing is fine but you can not expect anything else, meaning you would never get upset when he acts distant after. That’s the whole point! Having one man for fun while you are open to meeting your guy is fine. It takes some pressure off. Learn to rotate your men..keep those that are promising on the front burners, and those just for fun on the back burner. But never invest any emotion in a man who is not investing first.

Thank you Ladies :-)