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Hi I have a friend we are both in our 40s. (F/F)
There have been lots of confusing situations in the coupe of years that I have known her. She hates to hear if I’m dating or interested in someone she just gets snappy etc. When we go away for work she will say let’s just share a bed even if there is two and I kind of think well we stay up late talking maybe that’s why, but there is a vibe, it may be in my head though.
Then one trip I said that I had a thing on my back like a pimple and we were in bed and she said show me, I said but I would have to take my top off but was wearing a bra she seemed fine with it and just took my top off and after awhile of her inspecting it she said ‘common don’t you think it’s kind of strange that we are in bed together and you are in your bra? It was said in a way that was like for goodness sake don’t you get it? I just didn’t know how to answer but she seemed slightly annoyed with me.
I have told a couple of friends and they both said yes I think she was most definitely hinting at liking you. I have feelings for her but as she is in my friendship circle I am reluctant to say anything in case it just makes it awkward and she isn’t interested.
What do you make of this?
Maddie
I think anyone in their 40s who hints and has been confusing for 2 years isn’t ready or honestly looking for a relationship. Trying to date her will probably be a passive aggressive roller coaster in which you can’t both easily get on the same page.
But if you’re interested, just say something. Even if she rejects you, it can’t be more awkward to see her around as a friend than it must be after sharing a bed together platonically and being told to take off your top. Boundaries are already messy, figure out what you want, take the reins, create some healthy boundaries (whether that’s asking to go on a date or just friendship), and stick with them.
Raven
Gah!
Do not have slumber parties with your work mates.P
@Raven we are both writers for independent publishing companies so we go to events but don’t work together for a company or business just in the same line of work.
I”m just curious if this sounds like she is interested, I’m not sure what I want to do with it, to be honest. Maybe a lot of women share beds and I’m just not used to it? We I have shared beds with others but it almost feels like she is trying to get close, like foot touching.
tammy
if you like her, then i would try what maddie suggested. just ask her out casually for a drink or coffee or dinner or movie. whatever you comfy with. and take it from there. keep it light and interested. if she picks up on your cues you will know. but in case you dont know what you want, just put her out of your mind and avoid such close/intimate situations.
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