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    Laura

    Worried how I can meet someone and whether I’m doomed

    Having no success on dating apps

    All through my 20s, I never had a first kiss or sex for the first time. I turned 25 and felt worried because I was trying and putting myself out there, but no man ever showed interest. Even when I asked guys out, they wouldn’t give me a straight answer.

    So I tried dating apps.2-3 years ago, I found dating apps much easier. I was flirty and chatty and the conversations flowed! I actually managed to get some dates out of it and got myself a boyfriend.we just clicked over text and the connection was insane and I’m not just saying that. The banter was amazing and we would talk even before we met over text until the early hours. I’d never had that before and in fact for someone who isn’t a texter, I thought I did well here. It was like a slow build up of texting, not excessive at first. Just natural and easy

    We dated for 8 months. In that time, we had so many fun times but I had to plan everything. He pulled away and it destroyed my mental health at the timeas I was so supportive and kind toward him. But when he dumped me, he said he dated me out of loneliness. It still hurts me a year on when I think about those words, especially since our connection was great. He never took me on a date too, I planned everything which makes me wonder what’s wrong with me

    2 years on, I’m back on the dating apps and I no longer can have such conversations over text. I feel like my texting is kinda dry and I can’t flirt anymore. There’s no textual chemistry. I try my best but as I’m busy now I don’t work from home, I find it so hard. I do try my best but I find dating app chats kinda forced, I want to actually meet because I’m better in person and don’t want to waste my time texting

    In fact after a year of using the dating apps, I’ve not made it to a first date ever. I keep getting ghosted constantly and I don’t know what to do.

    It makes me miss my ex even more every time I get ghosted because I can’t find a connection as good as what we had even before we had met

    I’m worried now I’m 27 all the decent men are already taken. I don’t want to settle, I want someone I actually like

    Forgot to mention I did go on a date last month, but he ignored my messages after the date even though we had a nice time

    #941719 Reply
    Ab

    If he asked you out and he didn’t respond to you give him three business days and then move on if he doesn’t it means he just wants to let you down easy and he’s not as interested. Go find another guy. Do speed dating. do activities such as meet ups. Try happy hours at an upscale restaurant.

    #941721 Reply
    peggy

    Do not text and message and talk on phone ages before meeting and actually going on real dates.

    #941722 Reply
    Natz

    The problem here is attraction. I will not assume you are unattractive but I am just suggesting that you got to turn it up a notch in the attraction department. Because men are visual so if you’re looking bomb af, ANY guy will talk to you! But be cautious because you have to know how to weed out and not get carried away in just accepting a date with just anyone as it is not safe nor is it proper to let men take advantage to only have free sex and then discard you. That said, ensure you have a healthy lifestyle, dress well, and if you have good friends go out in groups, meet guys from friends of friends. Take a break from dating sites because connections with men has a more lasting effect if it is in person than in text.

    #941723 Reply
    Ewa

    Unfortunately this is the modern dating . People no longer want to meet. I would suggest change your criteria , maybe go for older guys or younger. I find younger guys can sometimes be more mature and not as bad at playing women.
    Ideally meet someone in real life but I know it doesn’t guarantee finding a decent man. I think where you live plays a big role too.

    #941724 Reply
    Laura

    I’m quite attractive I think. I have bikini pics on my profile, im always wearing nice dresses and got my hair and makeup nice. Im not very posey only as i struggle to be super photogenic. Ive never been approached or pursued by a man though. I know even my ex would have been too scared to approach me as he was so timid. People just stare at me. Im worried im running out of time and all the good men are taken. I use all my daily likes on hinge, and not one results in a match. If i do get a match, they will unmatch in a few days even though im putting energy into my messages

    #941726 Reply
    Ewa

    Please remove your bikini photos unless you are only looking for sex

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