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Alice
@Jade,
You’re not alone. I’ve been doing the online dating 11mths now, gosh it’s a train wreck isn’t it? Especially during a pandemic.
Still, I’d rather be alone than in an unhappy relationship (which many people settle for so they are not alone). The first step to finding your match is being single, so at least we are doing something right. For all those settling, they are a step behind us.
I know some days are harder than others, I have them too. I’ve only met one guy I really liked since being online but it didn’t workout. The pandemic slowed things down and it turned out it wasn’t good timing for him (from what I gather). It’s weird because we are still matched in the platform online but I won’t chase men. They either want to make it work or they don’t ya know.
Sometimes I pretend he was just an angel that was sent to me, to show me that I can still find love and there is still hope for me. Sounds crazy but he did give me that much, hope that good guys are out there and love can still happen. Finding love though, that lasts is out of our control and we must learn to let go and hope for the best.
Addison
APRIL!!! You SO have it. It was so amazing to read what you said, I feel like you’re one of the 1st people I read online that thinks exactly like me. You must put out an amazing vibe.
Jade – listen to what shell and April said. I don’t know how else to say it, but once you stop giving a f*** about something life just seems to love to give it to you…. it’s like you’ve dropped the neediness so the universe knows you can totally receive it. What you resists persists, love that saying and have applied it to my own life with astonishing success. It takes time and happens incrementally, but you can learn to embrace the let go. Basically, your vibe to the universe right now is “i want it i want it i want it!” which translates to “I don’t have it i don’t have it i don’t have it!” What you think about you bring about – so you keep thinking “I don’t have it!!” So the universe keeps that right on going for you. Just trust me on this. There is something you’re putting out like lava that is blocking you from receiving. The best thing is you don’t necessarily have to figure out what that is – you just need to work on yourself and be happy all on your own.
Life is just funny this way…. I got out of the worst relationship ever, took a lot of time to heal myself and focus on myself, and this astonishing thing happened where I didn’t even want one anymore. no guy, no relationship, nothing. Just like shell. I guess I was just ripe for picking – met a guy and he asked me out almost instantly. Came out of nowhere, I was in school just trying to live my life, totally was not looking for anyone and was LOVING being single. I have been in that relationship over two years now:) I seem to find love everywhere I go but all i’ve ever wanted was a career…. so I must be putting out some sort of vibe that blocks me from getting the job I want. But since i’m clearly zero f***s about love and relationships, guys must intuitively pick up on that instantly and feel more relaxed bc they know there’s zero pressure.
questions to ask yourself? I ask myself these daily, anytime I am mad or frustrated. 1 What are you trying to control? 2 Who have you not forgiven?
On days I can honestly answer “nothing and no one” those are also always the days I am totally present and loving life. When I try to control things (like getting the perfect dream job) – guess what! Doesn’t happen. When I ruminate over how much my coworkers frustrate me and even complain nonstop about it – guess what! It keeps happening- the universe keeps handing it to me because I LITERALLY keep calling it forward by complaining about it and thinking about it long after it has stopped.
I promise you if you do what shell did this will happen to you… but you can’t fake it. She seriously was happy with no man, and look what came. Same with me:)
love the support on this post, and i LOVE that others bravely showed you you’re not alone! You have even made me think. I’m going to try really hard to not care about my job or landing my dream career. I want it so badly, but in a way maybe I need to let that go.
Best of luck and keep us posted! This thread is great and thanks so much for starting it!
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