Inconsiderate gf?

I did and he was passive aggressive with me, left me on read for a day or so then texted me back to say he’s sorry. He has money issues and doesn’t want me to help, thinks I am privileged and make more than him so he’s acting mean sometimes.

He sounds like a child.

Thank you all for the input! Yes he told me I wasn’t paying attention to him, I’m always out with my friends or work too much and sometimes I send him pics when I’m having a wine outside or at a park and he’s replying with one word text, cause he thinks I do it on purpose to make him feel bad for staying inside cause of money shortage. He is also not careful with money, doesn’t make enough he says but wanted us to pay tons of money to visit a festival abroad that would cost a lot. I tried to explain that I might make more but not a lot and I need to pay my expenses first so I wouldn’t make it and he tried to make me feel guilty for not putting his needs first. He says sometimes I don’t understand him or act snobby but he loves me and I make him a better person. He recently asked me to help him find a job, I offered to review his cv and still to this day hasn’t drafted it, then complains. I love him tbh

Why do you even like this guy?
You say you love him but the way you are writing about him it screams that you are not compatible. It also seems like he is a negative nelly. Anything positive, he turns negative. You can do much better for yourself instead of a man who makes you question the things you do.

No no no. I once also loved someone who said I made him want to be a better person. I thought that was nice at the time, that it meant I was special to him and could reach him in a way others didn’t, but that was a fantasy. These words were really a screaming red flag!! It meant HE did not take responsibility or motivate himself to be a better person and wanted to dump that emotional labor onto anyone else that would do it for him. A man like this is not a complete person on his own looking for a good, equal partner, these types of insecure men want someone only available to give while they take, and it’s never enough because you can’t fix their insecurities. It gets very toxic. My ex had good traits, sure. But as time went on, he was very nitpicky and said mean things, everything I did was wrong later in the relationship so he could prop up his own insecurities and blame me to feel better about himself, it really did a very bad number on my self-esteem to stay and took a couple years to fully recover. But I stayed a long time because my self-esteem was way too low to begin with so I didn’t believe I’d find a man who would treat me better (this wasn’t true at all!).

This man you write about is MANIPULATIVE, insecure, and a man-child. I know how hard it is, but as other posters said, you can love someone but they can be all wrong for you… and I speak from personal experience when I say they can make you absolutely miserable. Loving someone doesn’t mean accepting a toxic relationship. He is saying he loves you but not acting like it, as love isn’t manipulative and controlling. You can walk away from a situation like that with love and acceptance for who the other person is, but still prioritize yourself and find someone else one day who will respect you and treat and love you as you deserve. I hope you can seriously rethink staying in this relationship, though I don’t expect you to just change your mind right away over internet stranger advice. But do not abandon yourself and let him define your behavior for you or call all the shots in your life. This is only your first relationship so you don’t have much point of comparison, but there are much nicer men out there if you continue to look for them. In my case, I needed to address my self-esteem problems and where they originated from before I found those more emotionally available, mature, and better men as attractive as man children who didn’t treat me as well.