Insecure?

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March 15, 2022 at 6:33 am #931898 Reply

Susie

how do you know if a guy is insecure or just not into you? This guy I went out with didn’t text or call for two weeks so i texted him asking what was up…if everything was ok or he’s ghosting? He responded that he thought I was ghosting him because I hadn’t reached out. And he assumes if he doesn’t hear from someone that they aren’t and he doesn’t want to be a bother or annoy someone. And that he keeps his cards close to the vest. I said well you have to let someone know because I assumed you weren’t interested. Is he politely letting me down or really just insecure?

March 15, 2022 at 9:13 am #931899 Reply

Liz Lemon

Does it matter? Either way he’s not a good prospect for dating. If he’s so insecure that he can’t reach out, or show interest in a woman– “keeps his cards close to his vest”– how will you pursue a relationship with him? Relationships require vulnerability and letting your guard down. And they require taking the initiative and showing interest. You’ll be beating your head against a wall if you pursue a guy like this.

So either way, it doesn’t matter. Let him go and talk to other guys.

March 15, 2022 at 9:56 am #931900 Reply

Susie

Very good point Liz. I feel kinda stupid because I said ok I’ll lay a card down and said you don’t bother me, I had a good time, enjoyed talking with you but I still don’t know where I stand with you. If you don’t feel the same way I’d wish you let me know. No hard or hurt feelings and I’ll move it along. But yeah that’s the last thing I’ll say to him. It is in his court now to man up. I’m dropping the mic, haha his name is Mike too. I have no regrets, said what was on my mind now on to the next right?!
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